Holidays

Hi all.

If we agree alternate weeks and I take our son away for 14 days holiday, is she right to think she can have him for the next 2 weekends ?

Or are holidays "excluded" from this ?

Thanks

What are the current arrangements, and is there a court order?

If you taking your son away for 2 consecutive weeks would impact on Mum''s agreed time with him, and therefore he would miss out on his regular time with Mum, it would be sensible for your son to be able to spend additional time with Mum after your holiday together.

If your holiday would impact on your son''s time with his Mum (ie the holiday time would also include the usual Mum time) then you really need to discuss and agree with her before going ahead and making arrangements for your holiday.

Nothing has been agreed. No court order.
I am a stay at home dad (work from home) who is the "primary" parent.

She works alternate Saturdays.

He gets 16 weeks off school each year and ex wife gets 4 weeks.

I have my own business and can work anywhere in the world.

Without sounding harsh I''m not expected to sit at home during the summer holidays because mum can''t get the time off ?

So when would your child spend time with his mother after the holiday?

I think we will agree alternative weekends and Wednesday evening with his mum. And a couple of weeks a year holiday with her.

In all honesty she''s a woman who wants a single life and our son just makes her life difficult.

Hi,
It sounds like you are the Parent with care, you need to discuss the contact arrangements with your s2bx and also with your son. If the agreement is for alternate weekends etc, and you are going away for 2 weeks then it would be reasonable to expect that you offer additional time. On the flip side if your s2bx wanted to take your son away for two weeks you could insist on having the extra time, but really as the s2bx perhaps you may want to not insist on this.
As the PWC you should be encouraging contact between your s2bx and the other parent, please remember that contact is for the benefit of the child not the parents.
Try to focus on what is best for the child.
For perspective I have a nominal 50:50 care arrangement, both me and my ex work so there is a lot of flexibility required on both parties, it has worked up to now because we both focus on our children rather than point scoring against the other parent.

LB

50:50 is all well and good if you are on good terms.
We are on terrible terms as se has caused so much damage to all.