11yo no longer has his own room

Hi All,

This weekend I learned that my ex-wife is moving back to her parents house. We have a child arrangement order that our 11yo (11 and 1/2) lives with me and visits his mum weekends.

When she moves back to her parents our child will no longer have his own room and will be sharing with his mum. Is this acceptable for a kid his age to share a room and bed with his mum ?

Thanks

Hello.
Has your ex moved back into her parents' home due to lack of funds? Perhaps the financial situation needs reviewing to see that her financial needs are met with regards to being able to accommodate the child when she has them? I am sure that it is more beneficial for the child to have contact with the mum, even if they share a room for the time being.

Are you able to help out with purchasing a spare bed for the room?

In some cultures it is perfectly normal for a pre-pubescent child to co-sleep. However, in my opinion I would say you son is approaching 12 and probably needs/wants his own space. I think you may need to accept that sharing a room is rather a necessity rather than a choice. Have you spoken to your son and discussed how he feels about sharing a bed with mum? Is it just a short-term temporary arrangement? Could you speak with the mother and offer to buy a fold away bed or even a pull out mattress which can be stored under the bed for when he visits her at weekends?