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17 Sep 18 #503871 by poppyv
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Hi,
Not the standard situation but hoping someone will be able to help.
I have been divorced for numerous years and have had agreed contact with the ex and our children.
The youngest is now 19 but has learning difficulties so I have continued to facilitate contact. My daughter requested reduced contact with her dad, which we discussed and although he wasn’t pleased an agreement was reached, however he is now denying any discussion took place and is saying I’m preventing contact . I have facilitated 10 years of contact?, and in some ways wish I hadn’t due to the problems he creates constantly.
In actual fact I’m not preventing contact but I’m not agreeing to everything on his terms, it seems to be a case of he didn’t want me in his life but still wishes to control what I do and when.
I’m very tired of the endless battles.

Can a court force me to continue contact.
Any other relevant advice would be appreciated.
Thank you in advance of any replies.

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17 Sep 18 #503873 by WYSPECIAL
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How old is daughter?

Is there a contact order in place?

If yes, when was it made?

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17 Sep 18 #503874 by poppyv
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Hi,
My daughter is 19 and no the court made no orders whatsoever in respect of her or her older siblings.

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17 Sep 18 #503875 by WYSPECIAL
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Your daughter is an adult.

Whether she spends time with her Father is a private matter between them.

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17 Sep 18 #503876 by poppyv
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Thank you , I just needed clarity that he couldn’t bully us through courts to maintain the contact he wants. My daughter despite her learning difficulties was very clear she wants to spend less time with him., he it seems does not accept this and states it’s me manipulating the situation. There is no truth to that and had I wanted to prevent contact I could’ve have easily done that 10 years ago but didn’t.
Sorry to harp on it’s frustrating still having to deal with his outbursts so many years later.

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