Contact with Children

Hi,

When my partner spoke to his solicitor when the divorce started regarding contact with his son she said that it should be dealt with at a later date. That he should be happy with what the arrangments were already and to get the finance sorted first.

As this is dragging on, is there any danger that the courts (if it goes to this) will say that the son is settled as things are and not allow more access? The soon to be ex is trying to reduce the amount of times he sees his son.

She seems to think that a father isn't as important as a mother in the childs life.

Thanks.

My understanding is that the pattern that has developed post separation is the starting point. So if he sees children one day per week that may well be the outcome.

How old is the child?

you are entering an horrific time in your life i can promise you that.

i cant believe what i am having to jump through hoops for my little grls and now my wife says something to them and it just gets worse i have the whole world against me and now i have to go to a psych assesment as my wife makes a horrendous cliam i am so close to walking away but my little girl is in for a horendous life with this women.

i cant breath so please get it started as they will cut your time and cut your time and then you are no where to be seen. when the parent with care wants you out of the childs life you aint got any support out there if you dont havew 15K lying around your in a worse position as you have to stand in a court room on your own with the other partie all tooled up with the legal aid team.

you will get attacked from all sides

love seany but the longer you leave it the harder it will be

love seany xx

i would love to say be strong but i am waivering i am running out of strentgh everyday and no matter how i try

he is 2 and a half. Separated 9 months

we are worried for the lad as he is with a mother that has brought in three different boyfriends to the house in 9 months. also leaves him with childminders and anyone she can get hold of to babysit him.

He needs to keep a detailed record of all the time spent with the child.

At such a young age it might be hard to gain overnight contact unless this has already been established.

What is the current contact pattern and do the two parties live close to each other (how many miles / minutes between homes?)

The pattern has been every other weekend he has the child fri-sun and sunday night when it suits the mother. He sees him once during the week. He used to visit his son in the marital home on the weekday but she stopped allowing him to do that as she got a boyfriend, so now he has to drive a 40 mile round trip to take the child back to his home and he is only with him for 2 and a half hours including the driving time.

She says if he doesn't like it then he can't see his son.

Bubble

I promise you it will get worse you are heading to court like it or not but you must focus on the whats best for the son.

i hope you have the strength for this fight as it is shocking what they will throw into the mix

seany