Wife left with other woman..!

Hi All,

My wife and I and our 3 kids have just been on holiday for 2 weeks. We got back into London at midnight on Sunday, I drove the 4 hour drive home, and went to bed as soon as I got there.

When I woke at 9am I found a letter from my wife saying that she had left for a few days and would be back on Tuesday.

She spent the whole holiday glued to her phone, much to the annoyance of everyone. She confided in her sister that she had feelings for another woman at work, and was planning on spending some time with her on our return from holiday.

So I have lied to the children about where she is, but I am not sure what to do when she gets back.

I personally think she is a little unbalanced as she has stopped taking her prescribed medication for depression, and has been very aloof since doing so.

She tends to be very impulsive and makes rash decisions without considering the consequences.

I really don''t want my children being exposed to this as it will be very difficult for them to get their heads around.

Is it feasible for me to suggest to the wife that she consider moving into our 2 bed house to carry on this fiasco (which will be like watching a car crash in slow motion), to shield the kids from her personal disasters?

I feel that if I don''t she will end up involving this other woman in family life only for it to all go belly up (she has a pattern of having affairs which go wrong very quickly).

Any help on how to handle this would be great.

For information, I have the flexibility and income to be able to look after the kids on my own.

Thanks.

I dunno where you get your patience from! Sure you''re no door mat but is she just taking the p because she knows she can?

Obviously Idk her to be able to guess how she''d react to your suggestion of moving in to other house - good thing for you if it works but would you even be able to get her to agree to it?

You''re def right it will make things difficult for the kids if this other woman suddenly turns up and becomes a fixture but please don''t lie to them again they won''t thank you for it later (I know not easy but they don''t need tmi)

Unfortunately I can''t give any practical advice but if you''re thinking this will eventually lead to a divorce I''d start it sooner than later instead of dragging it out loads longer than necessary, especially for kids'' sake but your own as well

What an awful situation to be in. How old are your children? Kids can be very intuitive so they will know something is wrong and keeping things from them will make them only worry more. How and what you say to them - I really could not say... only you can judge their level of emotional maturity.

I can not relate to the whole "other woman" situation but, I was married to someone who suffered from depression and alcohol addiction and it is so much harder to leave/divorce someone like that because you just cant escape an underlying sense of responsibility and guilt, especially when there are children involved. I recall feeling guilty for wanting to divorce someone with a mental illness and worrying about how I would be responsible for making their illness worse.

I completely understand you wanting to protect the children from this situation and creating some space to help limit the impact.

If the marriage is over, don''t draw out what is inevitable.