Pension share obstruction & divorce seemingly abandoned

Hi

I'm the female respondent in a divorce petition dating back to 2009. House was sold 2012 & profit split equally. 1 child, now an adult who lives with me, CSA payments complete. Nisi granted in 2011. Married 30 years next year but we've been separated for 17 years. Ex sacked his solicitor after form E's were exchanged having received the news that he would have to pension share his civil service pension for a Clean Break divorce.

I am on benefits (medical reasons) and haven't worked for 11 years, before that I worked part time + bringing up our child, and full time for 25 years straight from school. I have 2 small pensions and was looking for a 30% share of his.

So 17 years on from separation, the pension is the big obstacle in the divorce and/or he just wants to stop me from remarrying. He suggested we keep our own pensions, I refused.

My solicitor at the time advised me to stop wasting my money on someone who refuses to co-operate, or get a barrister £8K at the time (2013) which I couldn't afford.

I had 15 years pension before I got married, he had 5 years pension. He has stayed in the same job to date (34 years now).
We're both early 60s.

Has anyone else been in this or similar situation, or has any advice?

Thank you