UB Reasons good enough?

Hi All,

I am new to the site (and not sure if this is the right forum!!) and after reading a fair few posts I have come up with a few reasons for a UB case.
A bit of history - We have been married for 9 years with 2 kids, but for the most of that time I had the nagging feeling that something was not right, and about 2 years ago I realised that I had made a huge mistake in getting married to my wife!!
I did not love her as I thought I did and the only reasons I stayed as long as I did was that it went against the principles I had been brought up with, and for the kids sake.
But having a verbal smack around the head by some friends, I decided that if I was going to be really happy, and be in a position to move on, then we needed to get a divorce.
We separated at the end of June 2009, and last weekend agreed that we were both much happier with our new lives so we would make it legal.
I have found a divorce site on line, (which is a pity as I think this one is much better!!) and now I would like some advice on my reasons for a UB case, she has said that she will not contest it and we are still friends and talking, and I would like it to stay that way, at least for the kids sake so there is no tension when I go and pick them up.
I have come up with these so far, but how many do I need, and is the detail I have enough or do I need more?


There has been a lack of any meaningful communication between the Petitioner and the Respondent for several years, only the day to day 'When you home, Have you got the kids? etc'

The Respondent is not interested in any intimate relations with the petitioner. The Respondent has not shown the Petitioner any form of physical contact since 21st September 2007. This has lead the petitioner to have feelings of very low self esteem which he find intolerable.

The Respondent continually pursues and active social life with her own friends which does not include the petitioner, which has lead to the petitioner feeling isolated and neglected.

After an initial confrontation in December 2007, the Respondent and Petitioner discussed some changes in lifestyles, and the Petitioner made as many of them as possible, but the Respondent still carried on in what was the usual manner, always on her laptop chatting to 'cyber friends' even though the petitioner was sitting in the same room.

The Petitioner and Respondent have been separated since 28th June 2009

Thanks for any advise and comments.
S

I think that seems fine and hope that you continue to talk and get through this ok.

Take care and you may want to have a look in the wiki library for any other info as there are lots of useful articles.

Saffy x