Advice required urgently please.Many thanks

When we only have her income and it''s less than £1500 a month and only £1100 is paye income(she makes the rest up from self employed fitness classes she teaches which are not guaranteed) then £190 IS a lot! It leaves us with very little. With her classes she is already working 60 hours a week and it''s all well and good saying to get a better paid job-I''ve been struggling to find work since February when I was made redundant!
The impact on him would be far less if things were reversed-granted he would pay more than £190 if she lived with us BUT the amount of cash he had left would still be massive ie £2615 a month and kids cost no more to raise whoever had them! He also has the child benefit and as I state clearly doesn''t spend the same percentage of his income on her-in fact bragged to my gf she would be paying towards his mortgage.
It wasn''t actually written in the Order re maintenance as we knew it only stood for a year-she trusted him!
As for stopping pocket money and buying extras-yes, we could recover some of the extra money we are paying out that way but the the child suffers and my gf looks the bad person to her daughter which she is worried about. He has her over a barrel and all out of pure nastiness.
No one has told us yet though if my gf agrees to pay as she has no choice, will him insisting on using the CMS incur the 20%fee on top which is hardly fair at all?

Be careful not to confuse the child maintenance with the CSA. They use different rules. The CMS handles all new applications.

The link above provides the information you require. Either parent can ask for Direct Pay without the consent of the other parent unless there is evidence that the paying parent is unlikely to pay. That means your gf shouldn''t incur the 20% Collect & Pay fee as long as she agrees and pays the calculated amount.

Thanks I''ve amended my post-I know they''ve changed their name but they seem as biased towards the NRP as ever, particularly when none of this was her choice! Also I''d put her income as £2500 by mistake -it''s £1500 and only £1100 of that is guaranteed. If they assess her on what she has earned but she loses classes and therefore income I believe the CMS only review once a year which means she will be overpaying unless her income drops by 25%. Again he twists the knife. It''s very hard to live on one income when there''s two of you.

Are you not entitled to any kind of unemployment benefit?

Spending your redundancy on taking her daughter away on a holiday wont help you budget, and her ex is going to assume you clearly can afford to throw the cash around if your spending cash on her albeit for her benefit she seems to get the best of both worlds.

When the holiday was booked i thought i had a job offer but it fell through. We have been living on our savings-the only benefit would be JSA which is not a lot and you cant turn a job down or they stop it-i wont the job I wNt not what they tell me to take!