Birthdays and xmas

Hi all

How do you all sort out xmas birthday money for your children for your ex. Its my birthday soon, the 1st since we divorced and my daughter is devastated that my ex will not give her any money to allow her to be able to buy me a present as he said he has given me enough already in my payoff??
I have not problem giving her money for his birthday and will also give her some to buy him a present at christmas. I do not see it as me buying him anything but allowing her to decide and choose a gift that she wants to buy but as she does not pocket money, cannot buy herself.

He wants a chat we me next week and im sure this will be to discuss taking some money off the cm when money is required by her to buy me a present, if its for mothers day, birthday or xmas!! I feel so sorry for her.

What do you all do??

I used to give children money to buy my ex a present and just reassured them it was OK if they didn''t get me a present, they could help bake me a cake instead!

Hi Fiona
I have told her i am not worried about a present but she is in tears tonight saying after all i do for her she really wants to buy me something nice. She wants me to have a word with her dad bout it but what can i say??

Could you ask her to do a few jobs for you and pay her that way she has earnt the money you haven''t given it to her? It could be little jobs such as tidy her room or help with the washing up or even doing well at school

I''m not sure how old your daughter is but my son is 15.
At the age of 12 I put 30 pounds a month into his sole account then when he was 13 he had money there to do as he wishes and buy presents as and when required.
I have the same problem as you the ex wont provide money for it but at least I know it''s covered should he wish to buy his father a present although last Christmas he didn''t want to get him anything and I had to talk him around.