Failed Contact report to police (DV)

Wow, feelings are running high here. Your immediate difficulty comes from your interpretation of the word "abuse".

Let's look at the facts. The Court has heard your application for contact, and has agreed that contact is on the child's best interests.

It therefore follows that NOT bringing her to contact is NOT in her best interests, and a breach of a Court Order to boot.

But it is NOT "abuse". Breach of a Court order is contempt of Court - make an application to enforce the order. Wasting Police time calling something "abuse" when it is patently not abuse will simply alienate a potential ally.

Fiona is right also - child contact is a civil matter, and the Police's remit is to deal with criminal matters. Don't use a hammer when a socket set is needed. The advice you have received from seasoned "old-timers" (sorry Fiona and others!) is good, please consider it carefully.

Rubbing along in this "system" is made much easier if you learn the tracks it rolls along, and learn to use them rather than make new ones. Good luck, we're all here to help.

Will C

Sorry, but us women do not get taken seriously enough when proper domestic violence is taking place. It has taken me 6 months of abuse after he left (without the abuse suffered prior to him leaving) to get an injunction granted. The police said their hands were tied, and the CPS said there was no case to answer. If you knew my story you would see clear domestic violence but is still not enough in the eyes of the CPS.

I know you must be hurting but this seems more of a revenge tactic than any form of domestic violence.

I feel that you are belittling the whole domestic violence issue, sorry if this offends but feel it really needs saying.

Sarah

Well on back on the false report my x2b has made and the police have not investigated.

She has now applyed to suspend contact and also molestation order, and a occupation order for the home she has refused accept in a divorce settlement, her word "it not safe for me to live there".

As always sol are just making lots of money and she is on legal aid, I can't wait for the day when she find out how much she has spent on legal fee's.

What didn't you do, IYCWIM?

It's rarely worth defending non-molestation IMHO because of the potential costs involved. Even if you represent yourself you could end up paying her costs if things don't go your way. It's not always right or fair but, if at all possible, it's better to give an undertaking to keep away and concentrate on maintaining contact.

Hi sorry to jump in late,

Contact orders are there to protect you all, You, her and the Child, please take into consideration the possibility of this and how it could effectively 'go your way'if you have one and She doesn't comply?

Hear all, See all, say nothing my Granny used to say!

you are better with your dignity in tact than let her goad you.

Good luck x

Note to attilladahun - Contact Orders cannot be enforced under UK Law. To be frank they are not worth the paper they are written on.

I had several that were not complied with by my ex-wife and i could do nothing about it.

UK Law is spineless when it comes to enforcing visitation rights.

It depends on the individual circumstances but there is no legal reason contact can't be enforced. Sometimes it's a question of going about it the right way. I've just heard from someone whose ex was hostile to reestablishing contact after three years and it's going fine now.