When does support stop?

Thank everyone so much for their insight!

My husband and I will continue to pay the maintenance and mortgage until the youngest is 18. At that time she should have finished her present program. It is correct in saying that my husband is morally responsible for his children until they are of age. We chose to pay above and beyond the required amount monthly because that is what the children needed.

I am very sad to say that although we chose to do the right thing, the mother of the children has denied us visitation. We have had to make many sacrifices in our own family so that the children in England wouldn''t lose their home. This not only meant that he/we could not afford to visit because of the extensive cost of time off work, air fare, car rental, lodging etc it also has meant that we had to surrender a home that we owned here.

It is very difficult seeing pictures of trips to Brighton, knowing that we can not even afford to go camping and having to count the mileage in our 15 year old vehicle so that we don''t run out of Petrol or having to keep the heat at 15.5 C when it''s -1 C, outside, so we can pay the bill. At one point over 50% of my husband''s take-home pay was going to England due the exchange rate. We were forced to move into rent.

Now, we just recently found out that my husband''s entire family has been believing a series of lies for the past 12 years. (The present home in England was bought about 15 yrs ago when my husband and his ex-partner were together and this home was their second home, together. We''ve been together and married for 12 yrs) They''ve been told: we have only paid 1/3 or less of what we actually pay, that my husband tried to kidnap his children 12 years ago when they weren''t even allowed to the airport to see him off, that we have threatened their home. The list goes on and on.

Thank you for answering my questions and listening to our struggles. Despite all the sacrifices and struggles I am so thankful. I have the best husband and a fabulous family! I sometimes get tired and discouraged, but thank God that He has provided and blessed even when I doubt!

The discussion of selling the home when the youngest reached 18 was opened 4 or 5 years ago. This isn''t a new topic. However, we did not know the current laws about such things. We needed to know what legal grounds we have. Moral grounds are non-negotiable. My husband''s Ex has stated she would sell the home in 2014. However, I can see her attempting to prevent that, but I hope not.