retaking A levels / full time student status

Thanks - it seems fairly cut and dry.

If my son wants be me a martyr and stay on in order for his mum to continue receiving money from both state and me, than I have to pay.

I am fairly certain I will not begrudge that decision as much as he will- should that be the choice he makes.

Sounds like you have an ex who is dreading losing your payments, I have a similar problem. We had a Family Agreement in place up until two weeks ago when she realised her payments will stop when my son finishes his A levels this year - so now she has gone to the CSA, I''m dreading the outcome to tell you the truth, I can barely afford to live as it is ! My son is very annoyed with his mum for doing this and said that he would even speak to the CSA if it would help. I am waiting on a call from them tomorrow.

You never know- it may work in your favour as you may have been paying over the odds.

I have told my ex for the past 2 years she needs to retrain or do something that will give her a better income. but ''she likes what she does''- volunteering at the school and part time TA- which doesnt pay.

Anyway- I hope for your sake your private agreement was more generous than CSA so that you can now lower payments even more.

At least you have a relationship with your son and he is mature enough to see things from both perspectives.

After speaking with the CSA yesterday and having a shock at the figures they produced, I can only see bad things occurring in the future. My son will be furious with his mother , with her greed, which will now stop his Dad enjoying weekends away with him. I believe this was one of her intentions anyway , apart from the need for more money.
It must be really tough for you not having that close bond with your son, although I can only see mine for a few hours a week , it keeps me sane , without that I don''t know what would happen .
I have the CSA re-evaluating my payments now, they are calling my employer on Monday to discuss my pay , at least they are trying to be fair , I give them credit for that even though they refuse to look at the whole picture .

Iam in the same boat my final payment was 21.08.2020 my son gained two A’s and one C in his a levels his dad wants him to resit his C ! Despite refusing to pay for his daughter in her second year at university