Dear All Any help would be appreciated. I was married and had a child with a man. I stayed at home and gave up my career to look after my child. At that time, we both worked within the building construction industry. He went on to becoming a project manager.We split a few years ago due to his narcissistic and bullying violent behaviour. When we split, he convinced me to move out of the
matrimonial home and said he would pay me half the rent money. He basically took all the rent money and did not pay the mortgage and therefore the house was repossessed. No profits were made as far as I am aware.
After two years of looking after my daughter and with no help from him, I asked CMS for some help with getting funds from him to help me support my daughter. He then took me to court and employed barristers. I was not in apposition to do this, his barristers ran circles around me. It ended with him having my custody of my daughter and the ruling that I have limited access.
A year later, he now has CMS chasing me for
child maintenance costs. I just recently restarted working about 6 months ago and all my income goes into renting a property and just have enough for food and bills every month.
Although we are divorced a
Clean Break Consent Order was never submitted.
He is now desperately seeking a clean break order and says that he will withdraw the CMS if I give him the clean break but only once it has all gone through. I know he is lying. I also feel the sense of urgency is maybe due to other reasons.
I know that he is now working as a project manager on a large salary and has numerous pensions. I think the sense of urgency is because he now has his inheritance.
He has said that he does not my help financially yet I know that he is lying and he will pursue it to make my life as difficult as possible. He does not allow me access to my daughter and only allows it on his terms and at this house. On the one rare occasion I was allowed to take my daughter out at Christmas to see a panto with my son, his girlfriend and my partner of 6 months, he threw a hissy fit when picking her up from the panto. I should point out that he is so controlling that he did not even allow me to pick her up or drop her off when going to the panto and insisted that he would drop my daughter off and pick her up.
I understand that the Child maintenance cannot be part of the conditions of a consent form however a private arrangement can be made. Is this legal and how do I go about getting more information on this without all the solicitors costs as I truly cannot afford it.
Thank you for any and all help here.
