Collabrative Law, health, children, etc!

Hello - I've just discovered this forum, and was wondering if anyone might be able to offer any suggestions please?

We are attending meetings with our solicitors under a collaborative law framework and will get a divorce asap.

Whilst the calculator is showing a 70/30 split for me, these meetings are saying I'll only get 50% max.

Length of marriage - 22 yrs

Children: - 1 at university until 2012 (will live with me)
1 at school until 2010, then uni for probably 5 years (will spend 50% of time with each of us).

I have heart failure and will be unlikely to be able to work.

H has demanded at least one of the life policies 3*100k (you can see why!)
H will inherit £250-400k in the future.
H has full time secure work, £40k pa now, rising to 50k min by retirement) with final salary scheme pension.
House value £790k
Both aged 51.

There are more pensions, transfer value £130k which is transferable, and £32k in H's name not transferable, and £36k in my name.

He is pushing hard for 50:50 split of house, and also 50:50 of income (inflation linked 1.5% or so, no other increases) with no regard for his inheritance or potential income or my health.

Should I be thinking of going to court? Or am I unlikely to get more?
He says he can't live on any less than 50:50.

I'd be very grateful for any comments and help - thank you!

Ignore the calculator, whilst it's good at number crunching it doesn't take account of individual circumstances. The overall picture is the consideration and an equal division of assets is appropriate, unless there is good reason to diverge from that. Assuming there is no mortgage your housing needs can be met with 50% of the capital so there is no reason I can see to move from 50:50.

Maintenance of 50% appears to take your health and inability to work in to consideration. What is proposed happens to the pensions?

Inheritances are a grey area, especially potential ones, and as everyone's needs can be met from the other assets I believe the inheritance is unlikely to be included in the 'pot.'

Thank you!

Pensions - He keeps his final salary schemes and 32k, I would get the 130k to invest as a pension, which is estimated to produce pension of 3-7k pa.

Last question - is it usual to keep the life policies on divorce?

Sorry .. also, he is refusing to pay anything towards child 1 who is at uni - again, is this a reasonable stance?

TIA

Don't get me going on maintenance for students!

Here in Scotland all parents have a legal obligation to support their offspring until the age of 25 whilst in education or training. End of story.

Unfortunately in E&W it isn't so clear cut, but under Schedule 1 of the Children's Act 1989 the 'child' can apply to court for maintenance from separated parents.

Thank you again!