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02 Aug 13 #403102 by Shoegirl
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When I was in the early stages of separation and grief, someone handed me a little card. I think it originates from the 12 steps but it doesnt matter as for me at least it appeals to me because it is about personal growth.

I carried around this little card for a while in my purse and I used to read the words. I am moving in a few days and stumbled across this card again. I read the words and they still inspire to do better and be better today. I thought I would share them

Just for today

Just for today, I will try to live through this day only and not tackle my whole life problem at once. I can do something for 12 hours that would be appalling if I had to keep it up for a lifetime

Just for today, I will be happy. Most folks are as happy as they make up their minds to be.

Just for today, I will adjust myself to what is and not try to adjust everything to my own desires. I will take my "luck" as it comes and fit myself to it.

Just for today I will try and strengthen my mind. I will study. I will learn something useful. I will not be a mental loafer. I will read something that requires thought effort and concentration

Just for today I will exercise my soul in three ways. I will do someone a good turn and not get found out and if anyone knows of it, it will not count. I will do two things I dont want to do just for exercise. I will not show anyone my feelings are hurt, they may be hurt but today I will not show it.

Just for today, I will be agreebale. I will look as well as I can, dress well, talk low, act courtesously, criticise not one bit, not find fault with anything and try not to improve or regulate anyone except myself.

Just for today, I will have a programme. I may not follow it exactly but I will have it. I will save myself from two pests hurry and indecision.

Just for today, I will have a quiet half an hour all by myself and relax. During this half hour sometime I will try to get a better perspective on my life

Just for today, I will be unafraid. I will not be afraid to enjoy what is beautiful and to believe that as I give to the world, the world will give to me.

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02 Aug 13 #403105 by Vastra1
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Thanks for that Shoegirl, it is so much less daunting thinking about it as 1 day at a time, does sound like AA but why not apply to any situation that seems overwhelming and impossible? Very wise and encouraging but not lecturing or unsympathetic.

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02 Aug 13 #403106 by littlegreen
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Hi Shoes,

What a lovely post. We would all benefit and grow if we lived by these standards.

I particularly like the exercises for the soul.

Thank you for sharing.

Oh and I hope all goes well with the move.:)

Best wishes

LG xXx

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03 Aug 13 #403114 by positive41
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Really strange, this morning I was pleading for peace just give me some peace. My life is all over the place, my family disintegrating before my eyes, my future scarily unknown, my finances a shambles, my self esteem on the floor and my heart hurting so much that I feel it will never work properly again. All day my mind whirring with unstoppable thoughts...driving me crazy. So I came on here just a peek to read the posts and not feel so alone. And for the first time in a long time after reading shoe''s post I am calm....I feel peace. Thankyou.X

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03 Aug 13 #403128 by elizadoolittle
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Thanks. Useful reminder. Not sure I can manage all of these but certainly worth a try x

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03 Aug 13 #403131 by Nigella19
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I like that.

Best wishes with the move.

Nige

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03 Aug 13 #403136 by blonde cazza
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Ah that post is so lovely...and it helps xx

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