Fragile and Nervous

Hi, just wanted to introduce myself and hope that I don't make a fool of myself!

I have been married for only three years and asked my husband to leave a month ago due to several issues, including abuse. I feel a bit of a failure as this will be my second divorce, my first one being 10 years ago when my husband left for someone else.

I have two teenage children from my first marriage and have just submitted papers to the court to divorce my husband on grounds of unreasonable behaviour. He is demanding a lot of money in return for signing the papers. I have to extend the mortgage significantly in order to give him a pay off - even though the house and mortgage are in my name only. I am seriously worried about how I will manage financially and I don't feel that great emotionally at the moment.

Looking for some new friends and some moral support!

Thanks.

HI Tinad

Welcome to Wiki - you are amongst friends here and I am sure that you will find the support, advice and information useful.

Firstly, you are not a failure. You have ended an abusive relationship - that requires strength and courage.

Im not sure of the finiancial side of things - others who are will hopefully reply.

Do you have friends and family around you for support?

Dont forget that the chatroom is a great source of moral, emotional and practical support - we are all at different stages of this proccess, and I am sure that we will all help you in any way we can. Sometimes, just having someone listen to you is a help.

Take Care

Ruby

hi Tinad

din't you sign or agree to anything til you have had legal advice to me it seems you are being black mailed.You don't need to tolerate that kind of behaviour. were all friends here on wiki and will give you as much support as we can.

I agree with Angel557 - this is just blackmail. He doesn't deserve it and he will probably try every trick in the book to get you to agree - best get some good legal advice.

welcome to wikivorce trinad - i can only add my support with the above advice,

it does sound like he wants to take you to the cleaners - make sure you get legal advice, and be strong for yourself and your children!

Although he will have a financial claim on the increase of any value of your house., your needs will come first in any settlement - stay strong and good luck!

peter.

Hi Tinad,
In absolute agreement with the other posters...this is blackmail, dont sign anything, dont believe what he states...take time to adjust, absorb as much info and gain strength from the wonderful ppl on wiki.
Elle