Hello !

Hello, I’ve been lurking a while & reading lots, so plucked up the courage to say hi!

It’s been over a month since she left me for someone else, we are communicating via email quite amicably.

The sense of loss & shock have been quite overwhelming, but I’m starting to re-arrange the house to my taste, replace wedding photos with my own photography.

I guess now I’ve got to the point of disappointed acceptance, disappointed in her behaviour & that after nearly 18 years she didn’t think there was anything worth fighting for, accepting that it’s now just an administration process to find a fair & balanced financial resolution.

I’m sure I’ll be asking lots of questions, especially about pension sharing & financial splitting!

Thanks for reading

Yeah, it’s a real shock when the person you thought you were with forever, 20 years in my case, becomes a stranger/enemy
Amicable is good...mine started like that and soon went to pot. Let’s hope yours is better
This is a great site with lots of helpful information and people.
Good luck with your journey and healing.

Thank you,
I’m hoping it can remain amicable & we can minimise solicitors bills, but I will be fighting my corner.

It is a good idea to make sure you really understand the process so you can navigate it more effectively.

There really should not be any need to spend a fortune on solicitors.

Give it time to come to terms with the situation before you start talking money. When things are so raw you can find promises are made that can't be kept.

You may want to consider getting additional support from a divorce consultant specialising in finances. Have a look at our services page.

Hadenoughnow

Thank you, I’m doing lots of research into financial implications (Clean Breaks, pensions etc) & taking lots of advice from professionals.