How to live together through divorce?

Hi everyone,

I'm new to this site and been muddling through the divorce process by myself but now I'm stumped...

I instigated a divorce after 11.5 years of marriage and a lot of thinking as we have a 5yo. I filed for divorce in the grounds of unreasonable behaviour - he's agreed to the divorce but doesn't agree with my statement.

We are still having to live together while we attempt to sell the house and move on. We have agreed child arrangements so our little one lives with me but see daddy every other weekend. I've suggested starting this now so it is more normal when we move out which my ex didn't agree with. Last night it all came to a head when I'd spent the day with our son at a family members house - in order to start reconnecting with my family and building my own life. My ex was upset at not being invited and feels that he should've been because we're still living together and the divorce isn't finalised yet.

Am I being unreasonable?

Me and my ex have been separated for over 2 years, yet he still thinks he can control what I do, where I go, what I have planned with our kids, even down to the clothes/shoes kids wear and the nappy brand. To him it's control but I don't get sucked into his games so I've learnt to ignore him. That's what hurts him the most.

I don't think you're being unreasonable, you have to live your own life and build relationships with family/friends. My ex didn't want me to talk to anybody which made me soooo depressed as I had just had a baby and needed support, he wasn't giving me any help so I had no choice but turn to my family and friends. It truly made me sane again.