Ostrich seeks exhumation

Hello. I've been separated for 2 years and it is still the dominant force in my life. The divorce was started and responded to but I stalled it there because we haven't sorted our finances. We've lately been falling out about the kids and things are so much more acrimonious than they were when he first left. I desperately want it all over and done with but after we both stopped reeling from the shock we neither of us appeared to know how to proceed and it has remained that way ever since. He is abusive and unreasonable, ignores all my messages and will only communicate by phone so he can shout, swear and hang up. We can't afford lawyers and I don't know how to open financial settlement negotiations with a man who won't reply. I think I'm also just scared generally. I become bewildered and overwhelmed at the thought of doing any of this. When
I try to budget so I can work out how much he should give me and what i can afford i quickly get bogged down in detail and give up. This feeling of being "stuck" and never moving on with my life is making me utterly miserable but I continue to dodge sorting things out. In my defence I have 3 kids, a dog, a job and a house to run with no family to help. Nonetheless, the divorce needs to be my priority for my sanity and future happiness. Can anyone relate or perhaps give me a nudge? Thank you for reading

I felt like you until the divorce process really got moving. After 2 years separation I filed for divorce in March and yesterday applied for Decree Nisi (ex delayed signing acknowledge of service for 2 months).

Also sent my financial proposal to ex for consideration today. There is lots of help on this site but I would suggest you restart the divorce process and get things moving. You can only apply for the Consent Order once the Decree Nisi is granted and I was told I would only get a date in 3 months time, as there are delays.

If you post details of incomes, ages, assets, kids ages, pensions etc someone can comment on what a settlement might look like.

Good luck, things get better as you move along the process!

Thank you for your reply & encouragment