Divorce & moving home/schools

Hello,

I’m new here. Things not right for some time but lockdown brought it all into sharper focus. Have decided enough is enough and we have agreed to separate (divorce).

In splitting the equity in our marital home (our only real asset) I’m unlikely to be left with enough to buy in the same area. Where I live it will likely mean a move to significantly less desirable part of the city and would still be stretching my budget.

Alternatively I could probably afford a much nicer property in a much nicer area if we move to a small town half an hour away. This would mean not being close to family and friends who have been huge parts of lives for the last 15-20 years and moving schools for my boys aged 13 (Y9) and 10 (Y6).

Naturally I will do my best to support maintaining these relationships but I am worried about the changing of schools not least because of timing. Applying for secondary for youngest and choosing gcse options for eldest.

Can anyone share experiences/tips on how they have managed this successfully? Or what were the pitfalls to look out for?

Thanks in advance!

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Will your ex agree to the change of schools being in the best interests of the children? That could be a stumbling block.

How will the children feel about such a move? Would they prefer to stay with your ex and be at the same school?

Half an hour isn't an unusual distance to travel to secondary school.

Is there no way one of you could afford to stay in the current home? Division of the equity could be delayed until youngest is 18

I was awarded to stay in FMH until youngest reached 18 however somehow a forced sale application was sought by ex and his lies that the mortgage were going to repossess which wasn’t the case now I’m stuck with house on market and my daughters 15 and 12 where’s the logic..