Finally seen the gas “light”

Hi,
I have finally plucked up the courage to leave after 32 years together.
Husband has been gaslighting me since the beginning of time.
everything he does always somehow revolves around me - his drinking, nastiness to our now grown up children, his not looking after himself physically, not being able to do the most Basic things (all my fault).
He has recentlly been to the GP as he has suicidal thoughts. He received an emergency appointment at the surgery but before he went for the wmergency appointment he went to the local supermarket for a meal deal and after the appointment watched the football and discussed the sacking of 1 of the Managers with 1 of our sons.
House is currently up for sale and I have started the heartbreaking task of rehoming our pets.
His stepfather who he rarely sees as they don't get on is making it his new mission in life to send me bullying emails and offering financial help to my husband. God knows what lies he has been telling my father in law.
so, I'm on the way to happiness.
My grown up children (brainwashed according to husband and his family) are backing me 100% and are even considering changing their surname as their feelings for their father run deep.
i just need someone to buy the house and for him to sign.
Renting will cost a lot but it's worth it for my happiness.
He will move in with his mum and stepdad (beautiful big house).

Good to hear you are moving on happily. Do make sure the finances are dealt with fairly. After such a long marriage the start point should be 50:50 of everything. It may be different depending on various factors including ages, incomes etc.

You do need to be certain that you have the full financial picture before agreeing a legally binding financial settlement.

Hadenoughnow

We have both had full time jobs continuously- he has a pension which I am not going to touch (I am earning and he is now retired) As long as he signs when we sell the house I'm happy for him to kerp his pension.
He has been trying to get me to sign a joint severance form but I have told him to let the solicitor deal with it when we are selling the house 50/50 split.

I am in the process of renting a house out just to get some headspace and move on slowly while still selling the house. With help from family I have 6 months rent and deposit and will be moving next week.
wish me luck. Xx

Just a thought: worth checking on the house severance point. If anything should happen to you before the house is sold and while you own the property as "joint tenants", then your husband would have the whole house and your children could potentially end up with nothing. So it might be worth looking at whether to sign a Severance now - but you'll need to take advice on that...
Good luck with all of this, it sounds like you've been through an awful time.

I'm going through similar and at present, it will be under a Declaration of Trust Tenants in common 50/50 and that would secure your half or could be 60/40 in your favor!
Then your able to make a will and say your children or whoever receives your half.