help with my money?

[file] I am very new to this site and i,m all over the place emotionally,my husband of 25yrs is leaving myself and our 20yr old son so that he can set up home with his new girlfriend,[she is leaving her own three children who are 23yr 18yrs and 16yrs as well as her husband] so that she can live with my husband,i am i guess still in a state of shock,i am registered disabled and of course i relied on him for support,i am in debt and i am going to the c,a,b on thursday and i hope they can help me sort out my many bill,s.

My real problem is to do with money,am i entitled to anything from him? i cannot work due to the many health problems i have,i supported my husband through the last 18years of his army career,i put up with his mega stress when he came back from the various places he went to,i.e bosnia etc,he himself is a fond drinker and i have never stopped him doing what he wanted,now he comes home with,"We don,t have much of a sex life so i,m off next week but i don,t wanna divorce and i want us all to be friends!!!" i thought i was hearing things when he told me that! this man has torn my heart out and stomped on it then he has the nerve to ask me to be friends with him and his trollop!

My question is,am i entitled to any kind of money from him? i am on disability and since my husband came out of the army just over two years ago,he took my housekeeping down from £350.00 per month to £100.00 per month so its been pretty hard trying to stretch his measley £100 each month,yet he think,s nothing of throwing £50.00 down his neck every time he goes out for a drink,am i being unresonable? or am i asking too much,he,s very good at mind games and he has literally took what personality i had apart,i used to be so outgoing and i didn,t realise how dependant i had become until this started,i,m so very scared and i feel so lost i,d be grateful of any advice right now.

angel, a terrible state to be in, be pleased you ave found this site, you will get a lot of help and advice from people here. I cannot help you with everything, but I would say the first thing you need to try is reconciliation. But if your husband has dropped you money a while ago, you will have to accept that he started down this road long before you, and it will hurt you so very much as it is me. If you have your son with you, that will be a big help, although he shouldnt be alienated from his father. But yes go to CAB, have you your own bank account, get one set up, you will need it. Go to the benefits office and tell them straight away you have been left. Find out stuff from the net, if your son is earning and you recieve benefits this may be tacken into account, I am not sure. I dont know everything about spouse maintenance, but I would say you have a good chance at being awarded some given you have been married 25 yrs and are disbaled it is unreasonable to expect you to go straight out and earn is the theory. You need to contact your debtors as well.
If the reconciliation isnt going to work, find a solicitor in your area who takes on legal aid, (CAB will give you a list in your area if you ask them) go and see a solicitor, you can see one for half an hour free in most cases anyhow. Arrange mediation after you find out what you think you might be intitled too, then try to work it out in mediation with him, if he wont, you are going down the route of solicitors and court, but you will get what you are entitled too, he cannot walk away from this.
I really hope you do ok, remember it is going to be horrible, I lost 2 3/4 stone and look at me before! all my clothes fall off me now!
But I am coming out the other side in a fashion.