Daughter not wanting to stay with Dad

Sorry Ruby. Yes I meant ex best friend. They are still together. It must be so confusing for my daughter as all her life me and my friend were inseparable and now daddy lives with her.
Bulldog

bulldog wrote:

Maybe her dad was talking to my ex friend and maybe not saying nice things?? I don''t know.
Bulldog

Its very possible. Your bound to be discussed. Hopefully they do it in private. But maybe not.

You only have to look at how it is for 8YO children at school. At home. No one is cruel to them. But they experience nastiness at school. So they know what that sounds like. And when she hears this sort of talk, she perhaps relates it back to children that act this way in school. And take it from there.

Children have a different bond to fathers then they do to mothers. And not many children like to hear bad words said against mum.

Your bound to get blamed for this. But its just one other thing to be blamed for. Global warming. The price of fish. The strength of the yen against the dollar. Just one more thing is not that important

And your right for taking a back seat with the other kids. They can make their own minds up about what is going on. And they are old enough to have their own views on the situation. Marshy.

Your little girl is understandably finding this situation really difficult. It would probably be less hard for her if the OW wasn''t your ex friend. I''m wondering if it''s the overnight staying that''s bothering her. If you said she was going for the day only and coming home to sleep in her own house would she feel better about the visits?

Yes I might suggest that to her. We spoke again this afternoon after school and she insists that she wants to sleep there but she gets the tummy ache. Then as we were talking she got a bit upset and said she had the tummy ache again. I said that sometimes my tummy does that if I''m a bit upset over something. I don''t think its something she can put her finger on but it sounds like something on her little radar doesn''t feel "right" and the tummy ache is the physical reaction to it. I just reassured her that if anything is bothering her she can talk to me or her older brothers and sister as they all love the bones of her.
Bulldog