Moving forward

Hi everyone
I haven't posted for a number of years.but keeping looking in now and again.
Never really thought I'd be needing to posthe.
But feel I need a bit of advice.
I've been divorced now nearly 6 years and there has been a lot of water flow under the bridge in that time.
To cut a long story short.
My ex left me after 24 years together for another man.the first year was unbearable I was totally distraught and heartbroken.then I met a truly wonderful woman,who imay still with now.we're planning on getting married next year.
I never be lived it possibleasy that I would meet and fall in love with such a wonderful and loving woman.she is everything a man could hope to meethe and wish for.
We moved in together a year ago and things are great between us.
My problem is my old life.esp my kids.
My middle child I haven't seen for 5 years.he is close to his mam and guess he judged me on Wat she may or may not have told him.
We havery a older children who has just had a gorgeous daughter,and I'm a besotted granddad.
My biggest issue iso with my daughter who is now 16.
She lives with her mam and I see her as and wen normally a few days a week,or wen she wants something,typical teenager.
However her mam has constantly tried to put a wedgeneral between us.I've missed all her senior parents evending at school.cos her mam told her if I go she wouldn't. So to avoid any hassle I missed out.
The latest issue is that she has told my daughter she's not allowed to see me.
My job hoursine have been rediced and the child support agency has reduced my payments to her.because of this she has told our daughter she's not allowed to see me till I pay full amount!
My issue isent about the money,I think it is about £8a week sheso losing.I could just pay it but feel I'm being blackmailed into doing so.
My ex walked out on our marriage witch was great most of the time.and it came as a complete shock to me and everyone else.
She has a good jobuying and not short of money.she's still with th (love of her life)and says her life is wonderful.
We haven't spoken for over 4 years.basically we've had a couple of phone calls in that time.
I've moved on with my life and am happy all but for the situation with my kids.
Wat I don't understand is.why can't oremember won't she let things go.The only people who it has a impact on is our kids.
She isaid certainly not the woman I loved for so long.
Anyway hope that makes some sense.
She got Wat she wanted and because I've found love again.why does she still try to cause rifts at every oppertunitype.
Why can't we just try and get along for the sake of our family.
Thanks

I don't have any real suggestions, except that maybe your ex has found the grass on the other side isn't as green and she is jealous that you are getting married again.

It is unfortunate she is using access to your daughter as a way to get at you, as it is bound to impact on your daughter too.

I hope others who have been in similar situations can offer some useful ideas.

Thanks for your reply.nell no regrets.
People have said same thing to me,regarding her stance.
But I don't care Wat her situation is really.
My main concern is our daughter,whow is yet again caught in the middle.it'd really not a nice situation for her or me.
I'm tempted to just pay the money so thathat I can see my daughter.but feel I'm paying to see my daughter and that surely can't be right.
Anyway thanks again