Anyone been through mediation?

ag234, my dp's 2bx had the same attitude as your wife during 6 months of mediaiton. She refused to compromise on her wish list at all. Finally he called a halt and started the legal proceedings. This she dragged on for 2 years and then she came back for more 2 yrs later and he still has not got to FH in his case.
So it is a long haul for those going though this turmoil in your lives and it impacts the NP's as well. I wish there was an easy solution.

Bottom line here: If we were all getting along so amicably and splendidly well.... we wouldn't be here in the first place!

It all goes back to ignorance. I also think contribution goes way beyond financial support. (I acted as grief cousnilor, hand maiden and nurse to mine!)... but all they want to hear is about the wonga! (OK, I understand that's all there is left to settle).

Sera wrote:

Bottom line here: If we were all getting along so amicably and splendidly well.... we wouldn't be here in the first place!

It all goes back to ignorance. I also think contribution goes way beyond financial support. (I acted as grief cousnilor, hand maiden and nurse to mine!)... but all they want to hear is about the wonga! (OK, I understand that's all there is left to settle).

Funny you say this. My sit rep mirrors yours. My crime was to stand up to her. At the begining of the year she was robbing me blind. I was an un paid consultant for her and her BF. So I said enough. Then the sh1t rained down on me. But there is no way I could be a friend to her. Not after what she did to me. And her kin.

Bottom line is its hard to be freinds with ex's. But I suppose it depends on what they do to you. If my ex had come along to me a few years ago and said it was over then it would have been different.

Now its about the dosh, wonga. Thats all thats left. Me? I had to start again. But I am glad that I am young enough to be able to do this at 52. In another 10 it would have been very very hard. But thats life. You have to play with the cards you have in front of you. Chris.

mediation 3 - The nightmare unfolds!
Went to 3rd mediation session today. Haven't even managed to look civilly at future needs.
STBX refuses to budge on running business properly during week while I am doing second job to ease cashflow.
Options:
1. I move out and leave her to bankrupt the place, buying Monsoon and Laura Ashley in the process.

2. I stay and she goes, I give up second job and focus full time on hotel, removing financial safety net and bringing additional costs of rented housing on top of other issues.

3. We try to find a buyer for the business at a crap price, sell at all costs.

Happy days!

Hi all

mike62, sounds like your having a hard time at mediation, must be really difficult when ex2b won't compromise, really feel for you - hope things improve for you.

Sera, sounds like you are having a hard time too, hang in there!

Will let you know how i get on tomorrow!

take care

Autumn

...hands out razor blades all 'round.

(To Mike) Ding-Ding: Round Four!

Good Luck.

It can be quite an interesting experience.

It certainly got my adrenaline going when she tried to run me down in the car park afterwards!!