Online Dating - She''s Way Out of My League!?!!

Shezi wrote:

On the other hand....

This is the problem of internet dating, too much opportunity to build a penpal style email relationship. Take her to dinner, talk to her, decide if you like her enough to ask her on a second date. If you do, hope she wants to also. If she doesn''t.... end of.

Bloody internet dating... when I was young....

Shezi

I feel I can communicate more effectively behind a keyboard than in person. Many people feel that way thanks to modern technology. It''s like a veil, your appearances do not help or hinder you. I used to think I didn''t have anything of value to say at least face to face because I was shouted down over and over again but due to the confidence I gained from University this is no longer the case. I have spoken on podcasts for 20 minutes at a time, I speak out in crowded lecture theatres, hold discussions with lecturers, am actively encouraged to give my views etc, etc things are fine until I see a beautiful girl then it all used to go hell. This girl gives me so much confidence. Her words are building me back up brick by brick. We may not live happily ever after (although deep down I actually think there is a strong chance we will:) but regardless of what happens I think having held the attention of a girl like her I will not have these problems again. Yesterday''s self doubt is no more. I''m almost a straight A degree student so there''s no reason I can''t have a straight A girl as well:)

Palermo wrote:
there''s no reason I can''t have a straight A girl as well:)[/quote]

Very true. You have to believe in yourself before anyone else believes in you. Self doubt only fosters self doubt in others about you. Act confident. Even though you dont feel it. Success with people only breeds self confidence. Its a deal that washes its own face.

But its tough when you have been knocked back. Its hard to get back on the ladder communicating with someone else. Doubts creep in. Do they like me? Am I a person of substance? Or just an empty shell. Thing is, we often forget that there are people out there just like us. The worries, uncertainties that you feel, others feel. You have nothing to worry about. Enjoy it. It may last an hour. Or it could last a lifetime. No one knows. But enjoy it for as long as it lasts. C.

Marshy_ wrote:

Palermo wrote:
there''s no reason I can''t have a straight A girl as well:)

Very true. You have to believe in yourself before anyone else believes in you. Self doubt only fosters self doubt in others about you. Act confident. Even though you dont feel it. Success with people only breeds self confidence. Its a deal that washes its own face.

But its tough when you have been knocked back. Its hard to get back on the ladder communicating with someone else. Doubts creep in. Do they like me? Am I a person of substance? Or just an empty shell. Thing is, we often forget that there are people out there just like us. The worries, uncertainties that you feel, others feel. You have nothing to worry about. Enjoy it. It may last an hour. Or it could last a lifetime. No one knows. But enjoy it for as long as it lasts. C.

My ex contacts me via text over the most trivial of things every so often. I know she is alone, I know she is hurting and maybe she is taking tentative steps to reel me back in but it''s too late. I''ve built myself back up from the depths to despair. I can never be as incredibly stoic in the face of adversity as I once was because the foundations were smashed over a long period of time. I could stand tall, then I would get knocked down then I stopped getting back up. I have experienced emotional pain and trauma I never experience before so my outlook is different but in other ways I am a better person for it. I''m far more in tune with my emotions and not so guarded in showing them. The girl I have been talking to isn''t the only beautiful girl to show interest. Seems I wasn''t so bad after all and others see in me something the woman I once proudly called my wife rarely did.

Palermo wrote:

Seems I wasn''t so bad after all and others see in me something the woman I once proudly called my wife rarely did.

Well in that case, its your ex''s loss and someone else''s gain. In effect she has handed you over to someone else. For them to enjoy being with. C.

I dunno it never worked between me and the Nigerian princess who i emailed my bank accounts so that the deposed King of Nigeria could pay in £1 million.
And I''ve got to admit that I was sorely disapointed when my thai brides for u on online made that mix up after the £10k deposit and sent the groom.

All the best
HRH x

What did you do with the groom?

My sister is married to someone she met on a dating website. Turned out to be a dick, she knew that when she met him and still went ahead with it.