Just had ex on doorstep

Well I could have almost put money on that stbx turn up on doorstep to pick son up nothing had been arranged no telephone call plus occupation order states he can''t just turn up on the door told him to go away just sat shaking now:S

Strong cup tea have you any idea when he will return your child ? Have some me time and try and not worry.

He hasn''t taken him it was not pre arranged and he has nowhere for him to stay plus our child wasn''t prewarned about it he has special needs so needs telling about it in advance as it is a change to his routine I had spoken to the solicitor about this on Friday as I thought it may happen so I know what I have done is correct but he can''t just turn up anyway because of the occupation order I did tell him if he didn''t leave I would phone the police

Hope you and child ok. Sounds like you have done the right thing- difficult though.


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Hope you''re OK Driven. It shakes you up a bit doesnt it?

Bulldog

Hi Driven

Hope you''re ok. At least you are thinking through what he might do and true to form he is being consistent. In a way this can prepare you a bit for what''s to come. Having said that it''s not as easy as it seems when you are are faced head on with it.

These situations are full of adrenalin and your system instantly goes into fight or flight. They are not easy to deal with but you''ve dealt with this well. You ascertain what you should do given the circumstances and you''ve stood your ground. A big pat on the back, now you need to not let it affect your day, again so much easier to say than actually do.

The thing that I worry about in these situations is that they kinda become addictive. Where the confrontations we have with our ex''s are indeed all we have. It''s this or nothing. The nothingness is really hard to accept, we have gone from living a life with these people to Absolute nothingness. Like now, he''s been and gone and you are dealing with the aftermath. It''s a crap place to be, all the more important that you take good care of yourself today. These battering''s on our fragile system need to be dealt with with lots of TLC

I hope you''ll be ok, sending you a hug

LG xXx