(il)legally obtained 'evidence'?

If, I was to find a usb flash drive lying around can I show my solicitors? I found it, it was lying around, is this ok??

My x rifled through my computer and got all our financial affairs..mainly mine ..when I went away for a couple of days and she had a spare key. She even opened files and put them in the same order as I'd left them.
What she didn't know was that I had changed them !!!

From your point of view unless the ramblings are signed as specifically from him then you might have difficulty proving what was said on them was specifically from him.

That said you can discuss them in general with your solicitor and forewarned enables you plenty of time to plan a counter attack.


But in the end it all adds up to the fact you are getting divorced and the reasons are fairly irrelevant . You know your side !! Wait and see what is fired at you and take it from there.

polar wrote:

My x rifled through my computer and got all our financial affairs..mainly mine ..when I went away for a couple of days and she had a spare key. She even opened files and put them in the same order as I'd left them.
What she didn't know was that I had changed them !!!

From your point of view unless the ramblings are signed as specifically from him then you might have difficulty proving what was said on them was specifically from him.

That said you can discuss them in general with your solicitor and forewarned enables you plenty of time to plan a counter attack.


But in the end it all adds up to the fact you are getting divorced and the reasons are fairly irrelevant . You know your side !! Wait and see what is fired at you and take it from there.

Yes thank you very much. Wise words

@Rachy
I think we often get embroiled so much in what the other side is doing that we waste huge amounts of time analysing this and that and running up huge bills etc for advice.

The end result is usually the same .

Funnily enough I took a terrorist type approach !!

Kept everything to myself so the other side did not know what I was doing but still gathering evidence. Then if they suddenly hit me with something I was ready with a fast answer that they were not expecting.

With this approach I could control matters at a speed I wanted not the pressure her solicitor wanted.

polar wrote:

@Rachy
I think we often get embroiled so much in what the other side is doing that we waste huge amounts of time analysing this and that and running up huge bills etc for advice.

The end result is usually the same .

Funnily enough I took a terrorist type approach !!

Kept everything to myself so the other side did not know what I was doing but still gathering evidence. Then if they suddenly hit me with something I was ready with a fast answer that they were not expecting.

With this approach I could control matters at a speed I wanted not the pressure her solicitor wanted.

Thank you, yes I agree and I am doing similar. Although sometimes I can't help but tell him I 'know things' just to spook him. I get annoyed with myself but he manages to make me soo angry at times x