Worry about \"lost\" wiki members

super idea gareth it certainly would be good to hear success story

hi Tinny ,
it is refreshing to know that you are so considerate.It will be nice to know if everybody is ok .I did mention in the chat room that on April the 1 ,what ever happens I will come back and let everybody know.hopefully some of you will do the same.I do get worried too when some of the mails are so desperate but then it is nice to be able to express yourself somewhere or kick the cat.
I have found this site very good for company which sometimes I am in need of

Hi everyone,

Just lately a few of us have been concerned re: one particular member who used to join us in chat quite frequently and who was obviously a lost soul / had mental health issues.

We have to believe that the majority of people that use this site, although at times have felt and expressed desperation, move on as things become less raw and that they just fill their time with things other than wiki.

Different people take different things from wiki and although some of us currently see this as our second home others just need short term practical or emotional support.

Life is always going to have people that cannot cope when things go wrong or they feel life isn't worth living. Unfortunately there are just some people that life will not be able to help.

We have to take comfort in the fact that on the whole we do help people both in the forum and in the chat room.

Having been here for 8 months I have seen lots of people come and go. Some say their goodbyes and others just disappear and others come back for the occasional chat.

We have had wiki romances, and at least 2 wiki engagements that I know of, so wiki does have happy endings too.

As for the people that simply disappear, I think that most of them just go on to live life and make what they can of the circumstances they find themselves in. That my friends is life.

That we spend a moment thinking of the people that we felt pulled at our heartstrings means that hopefully their real life friends do too.

xx Sarah xx

Sarah
What a well put post.

I think I originally posted this topic because of a particular blog that struck me, from someone who sounded on the edge. I replied as did others and that was it. It made me wonder.

Take care all

Tinny

Have you all seen the video for Eminem - Stan ?



It has a kinda related theme but with a disastrous ending.

People who come on here often let out 'a cry for help' and in doing so show they recognise they have problems and demonstrate they want to move on and get help / advice.

I would fear the plight of the ones more who do not seek sites like wiki.

As a newbie I have found the site both refreshing, in that I'm not the only one out here who is suffering through this and my feelings/emotions are natural. I have also found it depressing reading some of the other stories - I thought my STBX was evil, but compared to some of the characters described on here she is bordering on actually being a good/nice person!! (Don't worry, it's all relative and I still think she's a b1tch)

Perhaps some people find that they cannot cope with the extra doom & gloom and therefore don't re-visit? I spent a long time that first night reading a lot of the posts etc and was both physically and mentally drained the next day, so wondered whether it is a good idea for me to continue looking at this site. I do promise that if I disappear I will say goodbye first (and I wouldnt take the other option, I couldnt do that to my boys).

just read this post.... quite mixed feelings from this i pick up and really sarah sums it up..but..from my perspective...
i have been on a while and perhaps more obsessed earlier, but that was my desperation caterd for... next the sheer hard fact of wrangling finances ..again apart from the best ever advice and help....the support and encouragement soooo got me through with alot less lonliness.... and the fact have always got someone to talk too and someone who will listen and always find somione in or going through the same/ worse or been through
although im no legal expert i can empathise and give account of experience, will always be around as long as wiki is, i will need and i will give.... this is my pledge
and may i take this opportunity to thank the very special people who have been with me, cared about outcome despite their own troubles.... if ever an awards ceremony for "tinternet" sites be sure my friend you IAN RISPIN be top of honours list
so im affraid wiki stuck with LOOBYLOO THE FIRST
xxxx