Teenagers,

Yes you do go on Hatton1, its called caring, loving, thoughtfulness, being human,its perfect and dont change that just because you`ve been hurt.
Its funny, my kids bought me a lovely ring also.I get beautiful bouquets for all sorts of occasions. I think they are making up for all the years he got me nothing.
Never lose sight of the fact that he knew what was going on for some time before you did. He had his cards exactly were he wanted them, yours are probably still cascading done from above where they were tossed when he left.
I so wanted to text my ex for his birthday as I had done for the last couple of years but this year fought the urge. After realising the kids had done nothing I felt so bad that he had nothing from anyone. He doesnt have contact with any of his family. What goes around comes around.
I too am not perfect, who is ? but my family come first and I would never hurt anyone let alone the people I love and care for.
Be honest and open with your children, they know how you are feeling so dont pretend. The crying does stop. Mine is replaced by a constant dull ache but it does mean I can function.
The deceit and lies I uncover the more the feelings turn to getting a life for me back. An honest, open truthful life.
Keep talking, ranting, what ever you feel you need. Everybody on here has been there and done that and we look super cool in our tee shirts that say "made it".
All the best. x

Hi
I think we were all married to the same guy!!
Mine flew in for his grandmothers funeral but didn't have time to come get his children sh they could attend so I did nine hundred miles in two days taking them and bringing them back the next day. Then he didn't even speak to them until his mother tore him off a strip.
My ex committed adultery, has now married her , only letting the kids know six months later, yet everything is my fault. His contact with them is limited, their choice they are teenagers. I no longer buy the bday, Xmas and Father's Day cards so he doesn't get any! They did message him today his bday but that's it.
I hope one day they will have a relationship. He doesn't pay the maintenance stated in the court order, we haven't had a penny for a year now.
They are a law unto themselves and I have given up trying to understand the man he has become. Needless to say he is not someone I can imagine I was in a relationship for twenty years with. Everything I have read tells me the anger is all due to the guilt he feels. Well I sure wish he would get over it.
Keep smiling nothing pisses them off more!