Is she making excuses ??

Had a deep-ish chat with new G/F last night and was trying to get her to tell her 3.5 yr old son "who I was" (ie B/F). She was keen last month for me to tell my 8 yr old that I had a new G/F and explain "who she was" -which I did !, but it seems one way traffic, as she keeps saying "Its not the right time" for her to tell her son about me. Me and 8 yr old dau have met them in the park and had tea at her house a few times and been out for the day a few times. She says she is looking for a few occasions just to lightly broach the subject with him and see what his reaction is. She said if the reaction is good then she will "feed him" a bit more info.

She did umm and ur over Oct half term about me having a "sleepover" in the spare room, but she changed her mind at the last minute and her mum apparantly told her she was letting her feeligns for me get in the way of her relationship with her son.

Various friends of mine have differences of opinion. Some have said "Let her tell her son in her own time. Don't push her", whereas others have said.." You've shown commitment by telling your daughter about her, so why can't she show the same commitment ?"

I'm not the sort to "walk away" and get scared off if she does show more commitment. We have broached the subject of possibly moving in together (prob her house) once divorce comes through so she's thinking long term, yet also seems reluctant to tell her son who I am.


Is she scared of telling him who I am ..."just in case" ?

An 8 yr old has that little bit more understanding than a child of 3, I would say let her do it in her own time after all she knows the child better than anyone.

I agree with angel,
the 8 yr old would have guessed already.If you love each other just take it easy and let things happen more naturally.
good luck

Just in case it doesn't work out??? yes probably. But i think it is unfair that she wanted your daughter to know who she was.

How long have you been with your girlfriend?

Been with G/F since early July.

Well I met my partners son who was 4 at the time and he was fine with it. We had been together about the same, maybe even a bit less than you've been with your GF. The only thing I can think is that she is not 100% sure about the relationship and she is making excuses. Has she dated anyone before you, or had she just seperated from the father of her child?? If the dating thing is all new to her then she is being cautious. To be honest there could be a number of reasons. Personally i think she is being unfair considering she made a thing about meeting your daughter..

I keep reading your posts about your g/f. I have to confess two thoughts cross my mind...1. you're not as sure as you claim you are about the relationship or you wouldn't keeping asking advice from complete strangers and 2. she seems a very controlling person and if you were a woman and your g/f a man all the women on here would be warning you against him....

Sorry, just my view...