When to tell children...?

actually, I'm pretty sure that she will tell her son herself - and paint daddy in black colours...

I feel that it wouldn't be right if my brother tells his son, especially since he talked to his wife and said that they should sit with their son together to explain the situation. It would be a complete loss of trust which wouldn't be helpful at a start of a divorce.

Now, if she tells my nephew it would be different though - she would probably suffer from a mental breakdown (she's a drama queen) and while having this mental breakdown she would confide in her son about daddy breaking up the family..

For this reason I think it's absolutely necessary to tell the son ASAP - by both parents.

Sprite's idea is good - might be good if somebody else talks to her about it... let's give it a try.

As soon as possible, do it with Both you and youre Ex or Husband or what not.

At least that way it doesnt seem like one of you is trying to buy love by making the other on look like the mean horrible person.

Personal experience, my Dad told me