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Manipulation Hi, I’m desperate for some sound advice. We sperated 9 months ago, very amicable at first and on paper it should still be very amicable and clean. I ... 08 Jun 19, by Dad73 Latest 09 Jun 19 by Maggiemay123	Replies:1 :660	Latest by Maggiemay123 09 Jun 19
Am I being unreasonable? Hi, I'm wondering if someone can help provide some perspective and apologies in advance for the long post, but I will summarise it the best I can. I've ... 06 Jun 19, by JS724 Latest 07 Jun 19 by Rickoshea	Replies:5 :876	Latest by Rickoshea 07 Jun 19
With holding contact when an agreement is in place Partner has a written signed agreement with his ex regarding contact, she has stated contact is non negotiable, dates times to be adhered to etc, he hasn't faul ... 01 Jun 19, by Lovebug83 Locked Latest 04 Jun 19 by rubytuesday Locked	Replies:1 :571	Latest by rubytuesday 04 Jun 19
Access, am I doing this right? H Hi So now fully divorced, yay! However I'm trying to work out whats fair and right. My little one is 17 months, her dad lives 200 miles away. ... 16 May 19, by Oz09	Replies:0 :526
Co-parenting and Court decision Hi I am representing myself as I cannot afford a solicitor. I have 2 children (ages 5 (6 in July) and 2 (3 in June)) and want to go for a co-p ... 02 May 19, by oceanlava Latest 14 May 19 by rubytuesday	Replies:4 :641	Latest by rubytuesday 14 May 19
Moving to another country Hello, I'm currently negotiating a possible job that, if successful, will be in another country. I have an 11 year old who lives with me but sees the father eve ... 29 Apr 19, by rachael5 Latest 30 Apr 19 by rubytuesday	Replies:2 :652	Latest by rubytuesday 30 Apr 19
Effect of Court Order on Child Maintenance Looking for some advice. I was served with a without notice non-mol and occupation order with a subsequent return hearing. At the return hearing the non-mol was ... 03 Apr 19, by Haz23 Latest 04 Apr 19 by Under60	Replies:3 :604	Latest by Under60 04 Apr 19
School Rugby Tour Hi, looking for an opinion, I pay £500 Pm Cm , also school fees of £2.5k per pa. also pay phone and pocket money of £20 per week. Also as per consent order p ... 31 Mar 19, by mick8335 Latest 31 Mar 19 by mick8335	Replies:4 :641	Latest by mick8335 31 Mar 19
In need of advice Hello Not sure where to start but here goes ... Awful messy divorce 5 years ago , 3 children my ex has took our middle child and refused to return him h ... 18 Mar 19, by Sandyq3	Replies:0 :508
Reasonable access Hi, I am going through a separation with my ex who had an affair when our child was 5 months old (he is now one year) this has been going on for 2 months I have ... 14 Mar 19, by Kgirl123 Latest 14 Mar 19 by rubytuesday	Replies:1 :753	Latest by rubytuesday 14 Mar 19
Cafcass positive parenting programme - experience? Hi All, Does anyone have any experience of the "Positive Parenting" CAFCASS programme? We're about to go through our annual Family Court pant ... 18 Jun 18, by s59 Latest 22 Feb 19 by s59	Replies:1 :720	Latest by s59 22 Feb 19
Consent Order - spending time with children Background info: There are concerns about me being mentally ill, drug misuse, domestic violence and not children-centered approach. Reports written by Cafcass a ... 12 Feb 19, by michael007 Latest 13 Feb 19 by rubytuesday	Replies:1 :553	Latest by rubytuesday 13 Feb 19
Taking Children to a wedding abroad I am the mother with parental responsibility. I have a family wedding in Australia. I have permission to take the children out of school(5 days total). My husba ... 30 Jan 19, by Mumto3plus2 Latest 30 Jan 19 by rubytuesday	Replies:3 :566	Latest by rubytuesday 30 Jan 19
contact abruptly interrupted I am looking for directions as contact has been abruptly stopped with my child before Xmas. He was meant to visit as per the contact order in place. X has been ... 28 Jan 19, by kool Latest 29 Jan 19 by rubytuesday	Replies:5 :592	Latest by rubytuesday 29 Jan 19
Attending Mediation for my children I am writing on behalf of my partner who is desperate to regain some contact with his children. They separated 4 years ago. They have two sons, one ... 21 Jan 19, by Alex0702 Latest 28 Jan 19 by rubytuesday	Replies:1 :640	Latest by rubytuesday 28 Jan 19
No consultation regarding daughter senior school My daughter goes to senior school in September. I have asked to be consulted several times (via contact book) regarding the choice of school. This is being con ... 16 Jan 19, by TooTrue73 Latest 17 Jan 19 by TooTrue73 1 2	Replies:7 :1262	Latest by TooTrue73 17 Jan 19
Safeguarding allegation urgent advice needed ... 29 Dec 18, by Minni	Replies:0 :518
Advice Needed : After DRA Hearing Hi, I obtained alternate weekend contact in the DRA hearing and there will be a final hearing. Judge ordered that I will not be able to cross examine mother bec ... 29 Nov 18, by topmanbottom Latest 29 Nov 18 by .Sylvia	Replies:1 :536	Latest by .Sylvia 29 Nov 18
Contact Order Been Divorced 3 Years, have two children 7 and 14. Ex is saying I cant see the youngest without going to court but I can see the eldest. I'm allowed 1 phone ... 14 Nov 18, by CANM861 Latest 14 Nov 18 by CANM861	Replies:5 :668	Latest by CANM861 14 Nov 18
CMS self employed I am now successfully divorced. At the time there were 2 children, now only one for CMS as other one is now 18. Ex is self employed. He was meant to pay £2 ... 21 Oct 18, by Under60 Latest 26 Oct 18 by Under60	Replies:2 :679	Latest by Under60 26 Oct 18
When to contact CSM Hi brief over view. STBX left may 2017 nisi granted consent order filed with the court. 2 children 10 and 13 both live with me. agreement was m ... 19 Oct 18, by FinallyEscaping Latest 19 Oct 18 by Cheesestring	Replies:1 :602	Latest by Cheesestring 19 Oct 18
Going back to court process 4 more access - help Hello, I used this forum during my divorce which I self repped thanks to this forum and help sheets. Before my divorce stuff I was advised to sort chil ... 18 Oct 18, by Siggi Johnson	Replies:0 :495
Worried he will leave the country with my kids Hi all I'm looking for reassurance I guess. My husband is from another country. We are in the middle of separation and a divorce. As expected we are both ... 04 Oct 18, by Headinaspin Latest 04 Oct 18 by .Sylvia	Replies:1 :476	Latest by .Sylvia 04 Oct 18
Leave to remove Hi there, can anyone advise me on the court forms that are required for a Leave to remove application? ... 22 Apr 15, by bluewho Latest 01 Oct 18 by bluewho 1 2 3	Replies:16 :4275	Latest by bluewho 01 Oct 18
Not seeing my children Hi I have been seperated since October last year. I left after a very traumatic few years and I couldn't do it anymore. I left and was a complete mess. I eve ... 10 Jun 18, by Lighthouse1 Latest 01 Oct 18 by .Sylvia	Replies:2 :653	Latest by .Sylvia 01 Oct 18
Contact issues Hi, Not the standard situation but hoping someone will be able to help. I have been divorced for numerous years and have had agreed contact with the ex ... 17 Sep 18, by poppyv Latest 17 Sep 18 by poppyv	Replies:4 :547	Latest by poppyv 17 Sep 18
Joint parental responsibility question Hello, If there is no legal paperwork pertaining to child custody and it is assumed to be 50/50, what happens if one party immigrates and the child li ... 06 Sep 18, by Lolitainkwell Latest 07 Sep 18 by .Sylvia 1 2	Replies:9 :1305	Latest by .Sylvia 07 Sep 18
CAFCASS records - clean slate Hi All, I have a question about CAFCASS record keeping which I hope someone may be able to answer. Early in the divorce process I was on the r ... 30 Aug 18, by s59 Latest 01 Sep 18 by hon3ybee	Replies:1 :549	Latest by hon3ybee 01 Sep 18
Coping as a father after divorce... i'm about to become divorced and have to leave my 2 children. I need advice. it's going to be very very hard being away from them. ... 22 Aug 18, by Alias789 Latest 29 Aug 18 by Alias789	Replies:3 :685	Latest by Alias789 29 Aug 18
CMS arrears, can my solicitor do anything? Childs father has been underpaying CM since November. I've finally got this moved to collect and pay... Yes it's taken this long! He is still ... 28 Aug 18, by Whippert Latest 28 Aug 18 by Under60	Replies:4 :588	Latest by Under60 28 Aug 18
Injunction to get husband out Hi If any advise or information appreciated. I petitioned in April and husband has defended the divorce and not moving out. He is very angry an ... 18 Aug 18, by Davdan	Replies:0 :519
Children possibly being moved away: should I know? A long, tortuous and possibly rambly post, sorry... My ex wife and I divorced in 2010, with a 2 and 1 year old. During 2011, she refused contact, which ... 17 Aug 18, by osb	Replies:0 :543
CMS problems after divorce I have at last successfully divorced. We have shared parental responsibility, but I am the main carer 5 days a week. The agreement being he would pay CMS. N ... 12 Aug 18, by Under60 Latest 16 Aug 18 by Under60	Replies:1 :530	Latest by Under60 16 Aug 18
Ceasing contact I sent a letter to my ex to try and get something official on paper in place for my daughters childcare arrangemtns between us. in the letter it states ... 02 Aug 18, by Whippert Latest 02 Aug 18 by Mitchum	Replies:1 :635	Latest by Mitchum 02 Aug 18
She wants to take my son away after the divorce. When my wife worked abroad, she met a man who eventually became her lover. Due to that, we broke up. She filed a divorce which will be granted soon. But that is ... 27 Jul 18, by FatherGrant Latest 30 Jul 18 by FatherGrant	Replies:2 :504	Latest by FatherGrant 30 Jul 18
redundancy Hello, Has anyone undergone redundancy and know how this affects CMS payments? Does any pay off count towards 'gross weekly' income even if it ... 13 Jul 18, by TurboB Latest 23 Jul 18 by .Sylvia 1 2	Replies:9 :1431	Latest by .Sylvia 23 Jul 18
No child custody arrangements - divorced 5yrs Hello All, My divorce was conducted through Morgams (Legal aid) and completd five years ago who have subsequently gone into liquidation A cour ... 22 Jul 18, by Lolitainkwell Latest 23 Jul 18 by .Sylvia	Replies:1 :516	Latest by .Sylvia 23 Jul 18
Contact in a contact centre Dear All, 1 year ago: Separated from ex. Allegations were made. Had very good contact with children including overnight contact. Ex never had any issue ... 09 Jul 18, by topmanbottom Latest 10 Jul 18 by topmanbottom	Replies:3 :542	Latest by topmanbottom 10 Jul 18
My 8 year old is in trouble. Hello All, My 8 year old daughter was sent to India for an agreed period of 2 years which is ending this July. My stbx simply couldn’t handle her res ... 02 May 18, by dadlovesu Latest 09 Jul 18 by topmanbottom 1 2	Replies:11 :1400	Latest by topmanbottom 09 Jul 18
Need a slight rant My ex is not great with money and didn't fully appreciate how much I put money aside throughout our time together for holidays, other eventualities etc. Since ... 27 Jun 18, by Donut99 Latest 30 Jun 18 by Donut99	Replies:2 :547	Latest by Donut99 30 Jun 18

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