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elizadoolittle
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27 Mar 15 #458753 by elizadoolittle

Reply from elizadoolittle

It is hard. I knew after about six months that it would never work out (after trying to get him to come back) and now I am very glad we are separated. I am getting stronger. I have almost nothing to do with him. I look forward to the day I finally get my Decree Absolute and start my independent life proper (I used to think I could not live without him).

AND YET I find the pull to do what he wants, not to annoy him etc incredibly strong. Over 20 years of being nothing but a wife and mother and barely any existence in my own right was not a good preparation for divorce, financial wranglings (he did all the finances), having to sell up, find a means of supporting myself and my children etc. I still have hiccups but I am delighted with my progress. You will be too. The fear of the unknown can be crippling, but I am living proof that you can get past it.

Lots of total strangers saw better than I could what was going on in my life. Everyone is telling you the same thing. It''s not that we have a vested interest in your getting divorced: it''s that we want to save you any more heartache than necessary.

Good luck.

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