can kids choose who to live with ?

I feel that children should not have to choose and in ideal world 50-50- contact be great... not always geographically practical
I have kids 100% only from choice of father ..id love him to have them week to week but not going to happen
looby

I would love to achieve 50/50 as I am not going to put the children through the agony of having to chose.

My x2b has now said she will consider mediation, but I am keeping my CAFCASS appointment anyway to ensure she is not just using delaying tactics that she done all along - even though she applied for the divorce.

GSS,

Good to hear your wife has agreed to mediation, that's a move in the right direction!

After yesterday I would love for my kids never to see or hear fromm their father again. But that is for this forum only!
I will honour the child statement should he ever abide by it. But I won't make it easy!

But as to the kids choosing my 14yr old was terrified that he would be asked who he wanted to live with. He wants me to change my will to have my brother or my new man as his guardian if anything were to happen to me. Not sure how that would work, but will look into it.

Hi Fiona

Yes my x2b has agreed to mediation, but only the first individual meeting with the mediator, and even then she did not respond to her first appointment. I had mine on Jan 3rd.
I think she is going now because the CAFCASS letters have now arrived, and it will look bad on her if she refuses mediation.

Unfortunately she has got both girls scared stiff - she has told them they will be dragged throught the courts. They both came to me after discussing with her saying they were not going to the CAFCASS appointment.

Waiting for the outcome of her mediation session to see if there is any hope for mediation.

Fingers crossed:unsure:

GSS,

Sometimes just getting people through the door is enough to get the ball rolling. Good luck.

This is a subject very close to my heart.
My feelings are that she needs to have custody of the kids just as a way of maintaining an income from me. Apparantly they are too young to have a say in where they want to live (my son is 5 1/2) which to be honest I find disgraceful and against human rights. He is not allowed to have his say but he is allowed be be unhappy. Seems fair eh?
Sad to say but he hates his mum and I have real problems taking him back 'home'. Now she is moving away and therefore changing his schools. Again, I have no real power to stop this. So in the last 10 months he has lost his father, his home, his 2 dogs and had another guy moved into his life (who by the way he doesnt like either) The one thing he had stable was his school and his school friends. This is now going to be ripped away from him.
5 year old and all this happens to you - how would you react and cope?
My daughter aged 2 tells me that mummy smack's her and that mummy is 'rubbish'.
Its a disgraceful situation but I just have to sit them down and talk to them. My lad said last week ' Daddy, mummy says that when we move you wont come and pick us up any more'. How do you think this makes me feel?
Tell you something, I'm gonna fight and fight until my kids are happy again.