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I say civil because civil proceedings are supposed to be totally honest and full disclosure. At the point where forensics might be necessary you are not involved with honest disclosure and civil and total disclosure you are into quasi criminal proceedings - by which I mean by implication that you are asking for information because of a fraudulent intention to deny the truth.

Do you know whether your stbx has a directorship in the business as it sounds like you had day to day involvement in the undertakers business.

Take stock and do not do anything rash right now,, evidence.

ive been totally honest throughout.
he wont give full disclosure, he wont give any financial information at all. i know i was mentioned in his dads will, but apparently there was never a will.
i dont think any of ex''s dealings have been honest. he wont disclose because he lives beyond his means.

i lost everything when he started messing about. he knew he was leaving (i didnt)when we sold our house. he didnt have any intention of building our new house. i literally lost everything, except my lovely children, oh and furniture. while he carries on as he was, a secure life

i may not be the most intelligent person, but i do know that he stitched me up, left me high and dry and that is wrong. i gave him almost 20 yrs, building up his family business, plus we had a few of our own (ceased trading) to be cast aside. i dont think £60 a week covers it!!

Well a will after a persons death is public domain so it is easily accessible by doing a search (ask a trust lawyer or get advice on here as to how to do it yourself - land registry searches cost £4.00 so I do not believe trust searches are going to be expensive).

Is the undertakers business still in existance and what does your stbx do now to make a living?

he set up a limited company, same name as the business name, just added ltd on the end really. he did this in his name, so he was the director. quickly changed it when my divorce papers were handed in to court. was transferred to his bothers name, then dads and now his mums name, as the dad died.
so the business as i knew it ran ok, no massive profits as himself and his mum, dipped into it often. its a good business, highly thought of in the town.

although stbx claims hes only an employee, which on paper he is. he runs the business, all of it. its his, just mum is director.

i havent been rash, sometimes in conversations and texts lol but nothing legal. i was stupid and uninformed initially. he is divorcing me on unreasonable behaviour, which i agreed to as he promised quick and painless divorce, but he had the affairs. too trusting or stupid, i put a stay on the divorce the day the Nisi was to be granted, as word got to me he had sold the land we were going to build on (promised i would have my settlement from the sale) and was buying new premises, all kept quiet from me.

ive done a few land searches in past two years, will have look at trust search, thank you.

yes his undertaking business is still running quite well. and he is still the face of it. hes still an undertaker

Ok, looking back on your post and your ex-s mum is the sole director, so presumably your ex, his brother and you maybe at certain points were employees without liability.

Question now who are the shareholders of the business, you have already indicated that you believe you to be a beneficiary of the will of the founder of the business, that being the father, are you mentioned by name, by vertue of being a spouse or by any other method?