debt

Where do you live now?

I''m renting a house now. I work part time so get help off government towards it. Needless to say e doesn''t contribute to it, just the £60 week for children
If that gives it more clarity

How old are the children? How long was the marriage? What is your ex-s parents financial status as far as you are aware?

22 yrs in uni, 16 & 13 fulltime education. marriage 14 yrs, relationship 19 yrs. met ex when my eldest was from 11 months old, and brought him up as his own.

his parents have an undertakers business, and started it 2/3 yrs before i met ex. the past 15 yrs i had a lot to do with it.
managing telephone (manned 24/7), accounts, admin, invoices, banking, funerals etc etc

ex left aug 2010, at the time we were still living with his parents. i moved out with children into my present house in nov 2010, the business was transferred to a limited company in march 2011 into my ex name. shortly after changed names to his brother, then father and now mothers name. another limited company was set up in the same names but is all in his mothers name now.
the father passed away this february, therefore everything is in his mums name. although all contact within the business is with ex. he lives in a business premises, that he doesnt pay rent for, just has a wage, but i know its much more than he declares, as i paid his wages, PAYE & NI for 10 yrs until we split.
i know or knew exactly what did and didnt go through the books, or what should have!!

as far as i know, the parents home is mortgage free, the premises is mortgaged. the business has a gross income of approx 150-200k off the books.

if im honest i dont think ex or his mum will want this divorce to go to court, public perception is paramount in a business as sensitive as undertakers.

I will try to be civil but I am struggling right now. Would you like me to send you a template for assets, liabilities, incomings and outgoings and also a template for statement of issues?

I also think potentially you need a forensic accountant.

why are you struggling to be civil?

any info/advice you have is welcome thank you