Do they count co-habitee income ?

Hi does anyone know if the Judge will take my Ex''s partners income into consideration when deciding on the grounds to an application to Vary Maintenance. the order granted is only 6 months old and breeched and due in court in couple of weeks. ?

Surly the judge will see his income is now higher as his living costs are much lower.

Thanks

Yes the courts will consider any evidence of a change in circumstance. Basically you will need to go through the form E process again although if the original order was made recently it will be more of a case of updating the information.

He fudged the last form E so likely I''m onto another loosing battle. Think I may just give up I''m tired depressed and had 4 years of it. If he doesn''t want to pay then nothing I can do anymore. I will look for an additional job to support my kids and I guess move where it''s affordable ASAP.

A very upset tired mummy

Oh please don''t give up - I am in the same place as you - ex cohabiting and won''t admit it, struggling to get even basic info out of him, adjourned hearings because he can''t attend, ex ow calling and threatening to ruin me, you name it. I was at the point of giving up last night but got up this morning found a way around it and am still here although not as positive as before. I think if we give up we lose some of our self esteem along with any benefits of fighting on.

I am going to try to get a extra job that means I can pay the bills do extra hours whatever getting a regular payment would make things easier much easier but at the end of the day even if its 50p a year it means my 17 years were acknowledged in some way.

Fight on, stay strong you have people depending on you so if you get the extra job great it means you are tough and can keep going and it means you can take him on in your own good time without worrying you won''t pay the bills whatever you end up with is a bonus!

JL

I let him go I mean leave 4 years ago, destroyed me I had 17 years and all he''s done is lie cheat steal be devious, he feeds the kids rubbish facts about me diss'' me as their mother, has no respect and tells me I should be more like his partner (ouch) now I know he has money I can''t prove it as we don''t talk he''s moved away ( that was just so the woman he was having you know what with behind his current GF back dint find out)
I can''t afford the house the food the bills pile up and what does he do ...... Tx me to tell me he can''t have kids and the reason being he''s off on holiday.

This man does not deserve to be a father his children ask him for nothing as they know he will say know or the usual answer ask your mother.

This is unbearable I get panic attacks when he pulls up to collect or drop off the kids it''s never left me and I believe it never will.

I have to try to be positive for the children but some days like you it''s very very hard isn''t it.

I''m sorry you are in the same situation too I understand your emotions honest I do. But sometimes is it worth the fight just accept and I should get a second n third job to survive whilst he tans himself on a beach with her.

I dunno I just want to give the kids everything and most days we don''t always even have the basics.

Just want to move completely forwards without court this forms that and him constantly trying to wriggle out .... Maybe I should let him wriggle out, something he won''t expect at all.

I absolutely get it - its a nightmare.

Im going to start a thread and see what comes of it. Has anyone given up the fight and felt better for it? Let''s see it might be good to get a different perspective.

JL

Thanks I just think 4 years of court battles are doing more harm than good I''d rather concentrate on making my kids happy than putting wasted energy into a man and court process that is obviously a complete waste of time