Ex is turning kids against me draft
If your ex is turning your children against you (parental alienation) here are some steps you can take to prevent anymore damage being done, remember you need to act quickly and don’t let the situation go on for too long.
- Keep a diary of any changes to contact as evidence in case you need to go to court. Log incidences such as if the other parent turns up early to pick the children up, doesn’t show up to handovers, makes excuses on why the children cant stay/spend time with you and log any abusive behaviour at handovers like if they argue with you or get angry, if you can you should record this behaviour.
- Write a child focused letter to the parent that is attempting to turn your child against you. Try not to discuss anything other than your children and keep any other agreements you may be having out of the letter. Use any examples you might have of parental alienation such as they’ve been picking up the children before the agreed time, they haven’t been attending handovers ect, and explain that it is not fair on the children or you to not have a relationship with you. Click here to see a template letter.
- Mediation can be a big help as it gives you and your ex a chance to sit down in a neutral environment to express any concerns or issues you have and explain why you feel this way. Remember to give your ex a chance to speak and let them answer any questions you may have for them. Go in to mediation as open minded as you can and think about what’s best for your children. If you made a diary bring that with you too.
- If you cant resolve the issue with a letter and mediation, you need to apply for a child arrangement order as soon as possible to stop the situation escalating any further. Click here to read about a child arrangement order and how to apply for one.
- If there is an existing order in place, you can go to court for breaches of the order by applying for a C79. You don’t need to go to mediation if you want to apply this way, but you will need to prove that there is a pattern of wilful breaches (at least 3 separate breaches, this is why it’s a good idea to keep a diary).
https://divorce.wikivorce.com/guides-children/letter-templates/letter-to-open-discussions-for-child-arrangements.html
