Not sure whether to be annoyed or concerned

I picked up my son today and the teacher sent him out wearing his wooly hat, which had been cut. His teacher said he came to school like it. Later on when he took his coat off, I saw that his school jumper had also been cut from the sleeves half way to his elbows. It fitted him well but evidently mum disagrees.

Now I provide a school uniform for my son to come to me on a Friday because mum wouldn''t agree to me collecting from school otherwise. I presume this is a passive aggressive way of saying "I think his uniform''s getting a bit tight" but rather than send a text to the effect she decided that the appropriate course of action was to cut up a child''s clothing and then send him to school basically wearing rags.

I''m not sure if this is one to be angry about or really concerned over.

Poor child. I think I would send a note/text saying I would have preferred you to let me know you thought he needed a new uniform rather than send him to school with his sweater like that.

Don''t get angry, it won''t be productive.

I know this is an old post but I''ve only just seen it and wondered what happened next?

What possible reason could your wife have given to do this to her own child? I know Mitchem advised not to get angry (and that''s probably the best advice) but my blood''s boiling about this one and I would be concerned and very, very angry.

Would love an update......

And it''s not passive aggressive, it''s aggressive.

Still livid!

Hi Walnut, thanks for your posts.

After this happened I discussed it with a friend who works as a teacher. She suggested a call to the head teacher. In the end I booked an appointment and discussed the issue with her. She said that she was very concerned that her staff had not reported it to her, and we discussed the possibility of a social services referral. She said on the back of one event they would not do a referral but they would be keeping a closer eye on the clothes he arrived in and if it happened again they would consider it.

Well after that my ex started sending him to school in her jumpers, and for a couple of weeks stripped off his jumper in the playground before I could take him home. I think someone at the school had a word with her about it because she hasn''t cut up any more clothes.

Last time she allowed him to come home in ''her'' jumper, and I measured up one of ''my'' jumpers against hers and found that mine was slightly bigger. That weekend I also got an email calling me negligent and damaging my son''s education by sending him to school in clothes that were too small and would distract him from his work.

I politely filed it in the recycle bin and await tomorrow with trepidation!

hello u6c00
the recycle bin was absolutely the best response... ignore the pitiful attempts to get at you but do keep a diary of the situation/events... in case you ever need to povide a narrative to social services... i am in a not too dissimilar position
take care
(sanity will prevail!)
SIC

Thanks for the update. I find it appalling that she would even strip the clothes off your son before you pick him up let alone cut them. I would never forgive her. But it sounds like you are being sensible about all this.

Hope you had a lovely weekend with your son.

Best wishes.

Walnut