Ex refuses to communicate!

So the dust has settled....however she now likes to try and continue to control and play games by not communicating!!

At her request we have it so that communication regarding our 15 year old son is done by email with text for emergencies. This suits me fine to be honest as it means i do not have to listen to her continuously rant at me or talk over me on the phone. Emails go to a separate account set up by me due to harassing emails sent a wile ago.

Now however when i request something such as a change in arrangements for a rugby match for example i receive no reply...different when she wants something though and expects a immediate response!

I would just like it so that there is effective 2 way adult communication through this channel that respects our son and his right to both parents. I have considered requesting a parenting plan that enshrines this puls some other things....any ideas??

Thanks you!

Not really helpful-but need to get this off my chest!
Think yourself lucky she still communicates in some way with you-my husband on the last e-mail told me "never to speak to him again"
Really helpful when we have 18 & 12 year old daughters together!
I really hope you can sort something out-I really don''t know what changes grown adults into kids when this happens and in turn they are setting a terrible example to their kids on how to behave!

Feel free to offload! I know exactly what you mean and how you feel...

I have exactly the same problem...ex refuses to communicate!!!!

I agree that its a form of control but its still hurtful and frustrating.

After almost 3 of this, I have resigned by self to the fact that it may not ever improve so I have to accept it.

There have been occasions where by children have been rushed to A&E for genuine emergencies and I didn''t get so much as a text.....

hang on in there buddy

And same here, I posted on it recently trying to understand why. Minimum comms through solicitor, which is why after 15 months I am as far away from Absolute as ever - and she was the petioner! And no communication on other stuff aside from the bare minimum around the children through a third party email address.

She is doing it to exert power, i have learnt to relax a little about it, but it is stopping me knowing where i will be living in the future(I rent currently), whether I can replace my car that is coming to the end of the lease, whether I can spend money on anything because it is essentially frozen......she knows this and gets satisfaction from it.

Bless you is all I can say.I have had this for nearly 5 years so know exactly how you feel.
My ex would rant then stay silent when you tried to stay silent.I suggested email but he refused to give an email address and told me to write to him then said he didn''t get it when I took time out of my day to put it through his postbox!.
I know it''s hard and frustrating but don''t let it get to you my boy is 16 now so have got used to it.
Someone to me suggested to sent a letter and get it signed for...and if you need to change a date just give them plenty of notice.

Hi,

God I am not the only one having problems then.
My sbex will not give his new address to either me (not sure what he thinks I would do if I had it) or even to our son''s school.
Our 10 year old son has a lifelong medical condition and even when we were together he never came to any of the hospital appointments but felt it was ok to complaine to me about what the doctors were saying or suggesting. I passed him a report from the hospital last time he visited our son and he had a go at me that the hosiptal did not know what they were talking about and that he knows best.

He will not reply to any of my texts regarding either our son or the divorce. He will not agree to set days for visits with our son and instead just turns up unanounced whenever he feels like it (which is not often. since he moved out and into his girlfriends at the begining of May he has spent a grand total of 21.10 hours with our son and had 1 phone call which I had to request and only lasted 3 minutes.

This apparently is all my fault even though I have said the only times I dont want him coming over are Sunday and Monday evenings dur to my dad babysitting while I am at work.

He wont see our son at weekends because in his words he "doesnt want to as he has a life"

It is very frustrating and not at all fair on our son.