Contact Order and Cafcass - advice needed

My daughter's father and myself separated 2 years ago. We were not married and he does not have PR. My daughter is 5 and a sickly child with numerous helth issues and on the highest level of both DLA components.
She initially saw her father but then he started to play up, being jealous of new b/f, aggressive, with a history of domestic violence towards me (but my daughter has observed incidences), alcohol, letting my daughter down, not showing up, not paying maintenance, etc. In the end my daughter would scream if she had to go with him. He announced he was depressed and suicidal because I left him. Every time he came to pick up my daughter he would verbally abuse me in front of her etc. He called all the time just to verbally abuse me over the phone. In the end my daughter would tell him "to leave mummy alone".

In May last year I finally put a stop to it and removed her from the situation.
He has now applied for a Contact Order and a Cafcass Report has been ordered. I was bullied into accepting that my daughter would have to meet with him for the report, even though I don't agree with it.
He has caused her so much stress that in April last year she started to Projectile vomit and have GORD and Gastritis because of it. She is on medication to suppress it but will still vomit if stressed. At the same time she also started to wash her hands up to 30 times a day, be petrified of germs and afraid of dying. That eased off once I removed her from the situation.
On top of everything, she doesn't want to see her father.

I have said that I will only accept supervised visits and will appeal if an order is made that would let him see her on its own.
He, in the past, has refused to buy diet-appropriated food for her (she suffers from 4 food allergies), had no bed for her, no clothes, fed her the wrong foods, refused to take her anywhere etc.
Can anybody offer me some advice?

Hi

When is the report due?
Has the officer given you any preliminary views?
Why do you think that supervised would be better - surely seeing him is seeing him, and supervised wouldnt negate those issues?
Has a psych report been ordered? Has anyone raised that issue with you?
Are you represented? What is your reps view and why?

The more detail you give, the more I can try to help you.

Amanda

Report is due May 29th. I don't really think she should see him at all as you said, seeing is seeing...but will that be accepted?

The judge at the Directions Hearing played everything down and I felt that it was about what the father wants and NOT what is best for my daughter. Fact is that my daughter has no relationship with her father and he is not committed.

Who has to initiate a Psy. Report?

Directions Hering was only on Friday. Will probably hear from Cafcass next week.

And, yes, I am represented but am not happy with it. Solicitor said if I didn't accept that father would see my daughter at Cafcass meeting, it would go back to court as the father wouldn't accept it. All in all, I was made to feel that I, the mother and main carer of a sick child, have no rights at all and offered no advice at all. Father's solicitor is a bully.

Hi
Never mind his sol - they all try it on. Have you any medical evidence of her deterioration since she saw him?

A

Yes, several letters from Paediatric Consultant at Alder Hey.

P.S. Do I have to agree with the fact that it was ordered that my daughter has to meet her father at the Cafcass office? What will happen if she vomits and screams the place down, as she has done in the best in his presence?

Oh you are in my neck of the woods

Has that evidence been put before the court? Did you have counsel? Is this case in the county court or the mags?

Amanda