When can we stop paying Child support? Urgent!!!!

These posts always sadden me. Why would anyone want to stop supporting their child? I don''t know of many 18 year olds who could financially support themselves without some sort of help. I will never stoip supporting and helping my kids no matter what age they are, just as my mum did me even though she struggled as my dad died when I was 11.

If the gripe here is with mum just pay direct to daughter, don''t take your frustration out on her.

Good to see you again, Will! We have missed your sexy green ears.

Best wishes,
Sadie

Aawww schucks, ma''am...

Hello Will.

I can`t say i miss your ears (sexy?) the site does miss your knowledge

My ex doesn''t help our daughters at all. I get CSA for youngest and the older two at now at university and he offers nothing for them whatsoever.

I am unfortunately unemployed at the moment, but there is always a home for my girls and food, even if I can only offer them pasta and cheese and a hug and a kiss.

Heartening to hear sillywoman. Thats how a good parent behaves and your girls will always love you for it.

I split from my ex when my son was 2. The deal was he''d live with me as she didn''t have a clue, not even how to put him to bed at night. Then a couple of her stupid friends told her what a failure as a woman she was to let me take her son and bam - all changed. My solicitor told me not to fight.

I signed an order to pay £400pm. She took him 200 miles away from me, and I meekly followed. The house I left her, made £60k equity which means her mortgage is now tiny.

I left my job in June due to Stress and Depression. She insists that I still have to pay the £400 even if I have to cash my pension which I can''t as I''m only in my 40''s.

I''ve tried to pay maint into my son''s account but she has blocked it.

Today I got a letter from her sol accepting if I go back to work at my old salary I should expect to pay £190 pm. If I remain unemployed it''s a nominal £1 per year.

To the original poster - maint is based on the parents salary not the step parents. In fact as my partner has a dependent living here my payments are reduced by 15%, money I will squirrel away for him in his name.

What infuriates me is that I have willingly, paid, massively over what I was obliged to for more than a decade (my son is now 16) and there is no recognition at all.

My sol also insists "full time education" ends at secondary school and neither Collage nor Uni count. I''m not looking to avoid paying for my son who I love more than anything but I want to stop feathering the nest of my "at fault" ex, her husband and their holidays that I cannot afford for myself.

Any money saved from court will be going into my son''s account.