Disabled child and maintenance

thanks for that. will have a look.

have just order a couple books:

"Disabled Children and the Law: Research and Good Practice"
Janet Read

"Divorce and the Special Needs Child: A Guide for Parents"
Margaret Price

the 2nd one looks good.

good luck. are you able to try to get something more from your ex?

You'd think he would want to give more as he's his son but no. funny thing is, if we remained happily (ha ha ha) married then he would by default pay for his child all the while he was dependent on us and this is how I think it should work (if they can afford to pay which my husband definately can currently) pay CM until the child is able to live independently. Of course things change and he may not be in a financial position someway down the line but that's when it should be applied to be stopped. better get of my soap box. good luck with yours adn I will have a look at the books too, thanks for the tip. all the best.

When your son reaches 18 he could apply for DLA. The benefit is non means tested, so living with you would make no difference to entitlement. The application form is all important to deciding what level of payment is given to cover care and mobility. It would be sensible to source a good advocate to help you complete this.

Thank you zonked he is already in reciept of that and has been since the age of 4. It does help and will be in addition to any income benefit he will bee entitled to but these kids are extremely expensive especially those with explosive behaviours that can cause a lot of damage to the home which then needs to be repaired. By home damage bill last month came to £1500 and all because he couldn't have his own way. Thank you for that though.

have you tried contact a family for a list of orgs to apply for funding for this sort of repair? there must be something. Or maybe ask Carers UK.

sorry - slightly off topic!

Court on Tues. Fingers crossed and all that. I so want this over but am very concerned we get a decent deal.

B

Hi B. Good luck for Tuesday, please let me know how it goes. p.m me if you prefer. I am now making an application to the court after 2 years, like you just had enough now. Interestingly I have just filled out Form A for Ancillary Relief and on it there is a section relating to periodical payments for children: even more interesting there is a section which says 'but there is no agreement, tick any of the boxes below to show if you are applying for payment: and there is a box to tick to meet expenses arising from a cild's disability. Now what is that all about (and if anyone else can throw light on this please chip in and explain). I have had two solicitors now and they both know my very difficult circumstances regarding my disabled son (17) but I have not got anywhere in terms of securing long term maintenance for him although he has agreed to extend it to the age of 22 whoopy doo (I guess he'll be cured then). Anyway this must be here for a reason but no solicitor has bought it to my attention. Just thought it worth mentioning if your going to court. sorry gone on a bit.