Thank you for your reply.
Why are you not sure?
I sometimes wonder that why people think that a father will try to pay less for their children?
Both my children have full rights on the money I earn and I am always happy to keep on doing my best, as MOST of the fathers do. I just ALSO want to remain in continuous contact with my daughters as mere financial contribution is not enough for them rather they need my time and my love too. I adore my children, something my ex always admire too, apart from when she is in the court!!
It seems obvious that I wont be able to explain to you how I feel and what goes inside me due to the fact that I haven’t seen my kids for months although they live stone throw, they are the ones i adore the most. In the interest of my kids, i even withdrew my divorce and i never stopped paying for the mortgage or the
child maintenance since April 2009, although there are no court orders.... I haven’t been able to celebrate their birthdays with them, however i arranged a party without them and send them gifts..... something any father would do.
I work very hard and bear all the challenges at work but even then i cant even afford my own living let alone any luxury or holidays. I am on medicines and my health & financial situation is going further and further into red and sometimes I ask myself that why am i working? The only convincing answer is that it is important for myself and my family for our self-esteem rather than going on benefits.
I am only trying to seek a route which allows regular contact with the children, without any hick-ups and the only think which motivates my ex is money, unfortunately. Current situation is just worst and i think atleast changing to self employment might help, and might not..... but I am sure that i cant live with the current status and current outgoings for long, and it must change before collapsing completely.
It will be nice to hear from someone who unfortunately experienced the same issue.
Changing to being self employed MIGHT ALSO help my cash flow, without compromising on the child maintenance.
I am not aware which route would be the best to move from employment to become self employed as to the best of my knowledge there are three possible options. 1) Open a company and start consultancy. 2) work under an umbrella company. 3) Become self employed without opening any company.
Does anyone know about these options and that how they differ?
Any suggestions would be hugely appreciated.
Thanks in advance.