Just curious

I think is should be the case of a 50:50 shared care as a starting point and a parent needs to explain why they cannot do this. I think the reason for this not happening is cost to a government they would have to fund two homes through the benefit system for in affect one family. So my belief is they are happy for the main carer to be the woman and this is probably the cheapest way to bring up the children for the state.

I take on board what sexysadie said "they think both parents should contribute to the children's costs" I have shared care but pay CM as I am classed as a NRP. But if this was the case how come in the CSA calculations if a NRP lives with someone who has kids that are not their own they pay less in CM to their own kids? So if a husband has an affair with a woman with 6 kids goes to live with her he will pay less in CM to his one kids so yes something is not right. Talk about adding insult to injury

Sometimes true 50:50 is impossible as in my case my ex has done her best to cut me out and is very hard to be the father I was because my ex's bloke moved in the same week as I had to leave and took over my role straight away. As before I was the one who run they to groups school drop and pick up 3 times a week and bizarrely enough he does this now.

My ex and her bloke bring in more than double what I do and the housing cost are half what I pay and I have the kids 6 nights out of 14 half school hols and pay CM, I buy clothes for both at mine and hers, buy school clothes, contribute to activities, top up mobiles, pocket money and have ended up buying the expensive birthday and xmas presents.

I do think it is unfair there are lots of PWC that get little or nothing from NRP and for others it is a different story. And I think it is the women who are left by their husband do worst and the ones that have an affair and move in a new bloke do better and the system appears happy to support this.

The ones who do best are the ones that have children by lots of fathers.

3 kids with different fathers and you could be getting a 15% tax free slice of three salaries. Work 16 hours a week and get a wheel barrow full of tax credits as well. Not bad work if you can get it and gives you plenty of time to try and meet the next father.

Just wanted to ditto start again reply and say I totally agree!!!!

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