Help - Child Councelling

My daughters school is providing councelling for my 11 year old. She had her first session last Monday and she said she enjoyed it. I have recieved a call from the school asking me to come in. I went through councelling post seperation which helped me. I asked why I needed to come in and they said you daughter wants to talk to you. I thought up to that point I had a good relationship with my daugher and we talk about anything and everthing. Her mother has also been called in but the sessions are separate. My relationship with her isn't and is not likley ever to improve. Has anyone got an idea of how these sessions work? I have that sick feeling in my stomach..

The ones I've been at were in no sense pressurised. They were very helpful and the counsellors were friendly and relaxed. I don't think you should waste a good worry on this. Save it up for something else!

Cheers mate, it's been a wobble and the school are being vague. I never knew my daughter had been councelling until she told me and as yet haven't told me what the cataylst was for them giving her the support.

My daughter (12) receives counselling through the school (they actually have 2 full-time student counsellors). Its very informal, she can go as and when she needs to (or when her teachers think she might benefit from going), and the sessions take place in a relaxed and supportive environment. Its helped her enormously, and knowing that she has someone other than me she can share her own worries with means that I don't fret quite so much.

As Jonathan says, try not to worry, once you have more information and have been to a joint session, I'm sure you will feel much more comfortable about it.

Sometimes children need a little extra support, on a one-to-one basis, the fact that your daughter is receiving this and is being supported by the school is a good thing - much better than her not having an outlet for voicing her thoughts and concerns.

Thanks guys.

We had the session yesterday, my eldest who is 12 the councillor and me. My daughter had a list of things she wanted to talk about. The first was that she had been councilled now for a year. I didn't know this but thought it was great. I expect her mother did know. Me attending the session came around as my ex had told her she had a boyfriend and this upset her. My daughter told me that she knew of her mothers affair, she also knew that the row me and her mother had was a one off. She also wanted to know whether it ws my daughters fault and clearly it wasn't. What I got was positive re-inforcement that my daughters love and miss me. I then spent an hour with the councillor talking about being a seperate parent and how this had affected me, she made no mention of the ex just the circumstance around it. All good. Not sure what her mother got from it. There maybe follow up sessions as my girls are concerned about be moved away from me and the spector of a step-parent...

So pleased for you that you've had confirmation of how much your daughters care for you.
I understand concerns about possible step-parents- it is devestating for children to be caught up in divorce and then to have to factor in another adult-. I wish that these selfish individuals who are so careless of their children's feelings could be made to face up to the realities of their selfishness but that's not likely to happen!
Just be there for your kids,even if it's just a phonecall or message.
Hugs.