CSA are becoming a pain

I think you'll find the CSA 'rules' are such that if the PWC thinks there's been a change to the NRP's income, they can ask for a reassessment. It's not the CSA doing anything wrong, as such (assuming she is actually doing the asking). This is set to change next year with the new charging system and a 'fixing' of maintenance for a year at a time. Quite when existing cases will move over onto this system remains to be seen, however.

The court system can help with contact - a solicitor isn't always necessary. There is a lot of help on here with contact issues so do have a look around the site and ask questions. Regardless of contact, the children need financial support and it would be wrong to stop paying on the basis of no contact.

With all due respect, you sound incredibly angry about the situation. I can appreciate how frustrating it is but see it from the other side - your ex is swanning about with a new partner and apparently a ton of money in his pocket. Wouldn't you want to make sure your children got their fair share of that? It is part and parcel of separation and divorce that you don't believe the other side when they're telling you the truth. I'm not sure it's about her not having 'moved on', it's about control and getting her own way. Being pleased that the assessment will reduce is kind of tit for tat and ultimately, fails to recognise that it's the children who will suffer over all.

Hi Tina

You do sound incredibly bitter, but please don't be. It is hard (as you know) being a single parent. Children cost a fortune.

Yes it is wrong that she is not allowing your partner to see his son, but she must have her reasons, rightly or wrongly.

You have your partner, enjoy him.