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22 Feb 14 #423419 by MrsMathsisfun
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Difficult one as technically she will only be doing first degree but he is entitled to believe his commitment was 3 years so suddenly to expect him to contribute to 4 years might be considered unreasonable.

My son had to repeat one year due to death of very close friend. Ex wasnt prepared to finance extra year. (New wife was pregnant and had organised finances based on stopping payment)

I was kind of angry at time but now being on other side and having the commitment of cm I am more sympathic.

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22 Feb 14 #423425 by spooky
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It is a difficult one. He paid for 3 years for first one.

He has committed to 4 years for second daughter as her degree is 4 years.

This daughter wants to change degrees one year in

There is number 4 who will also go to Uni next year.

The order was made as I was afraid that there may be problems along the way.

His committment to his 4 girls will be decreasing as they each graduate.

He is a high earner and there was always an expectation that they would all go to Uni.

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22 Feb 14 #423435 by MrsMathsisfun
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If he doesn''t pay for the extra year will your daughter still be able to go?

Did he agree to 2nd daughter 4years prior to court or was it part of court order?

It might be a reaction if you got more of the assets and by time your daughter does the extra year he may have moved on and support her anyway.

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22 Feb 14 #423438 by spooky
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He did agree to support 2nd daughter for 4 years.

I will have to find the extra support for the one who wants to change her degree if he won''t.

I get the feeling he is doing this out of spite because although we have been divorced a long time there are still ongoing problems.

Up to now she has approached her Father herself but this has been difficult for her.

I do have an order that states that he is to continue to pay maintenance to end of first degree.

In theory she does not have a degree as yet!

He is not going to pay a penny more than he has to, a shame for his own children.

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22 Feb 14 #423440 by MrsMathsisfun
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It might be he is concerned that she will change her mind again and not like the next course.

You probably could take it to court when he actually stops paying prior to her finishing course but that might not be worth the stress.

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