Obliged to pay for my son''s clothes when at my X?

my ex has somehow managed to have the child benefit and tax credit awarded to him even though we have our son half/half and usually I have him more when he''s away with his gf.

He does not share a penny of the benefits he receives for our son. My new partner has just bought him new school shoes, a full PE kit and school shirts. My ex was prepared to let him go to school with holes in his shoes, I am not.

He says he can''t afford to buy him shoes ... he has two businesses and has just planned a party for his gf!

It''s all about priorities. My ex also does not pay a penny towards our daughter who lives with me full time (her choice) and I only get CB for her, no tax credit. So my partner pays for her too, school uniforms, trips, travel fares etc.

Myself and my partner have not been out for over a year. But the children come first

very right indeed vanilla
i completely agree

Cracking how the little things become such issues. Of course dad should buy clothes for when kids are at his. I pay maintenance but also buy there clothes for when there with with. Good job really because my tumble dryer shrinks them after my washing machine colours them. The machines fault of course, not mine. There mum refuses to let me wash the clothes they come in, but that''s a sensible decision.
Fathers, get a grip and buy clothes for your kids, besides the shopping trips with em are fun and that is part of parenting.
( Just fancied a rant )

and another thing - having my girl suddenly with me full time, christ everything adds up - snacks - pack ups - socks (blaming the tumble dryer again for eating them) - wash powder - hair bobbles (where the hell do they go). The big things are fine, I plan for them it''s the little things that add up and cripple the budget. So those that say I pay child maintenance so cover everything .. You Don''t cover anywhere near everything

Thank you jumpingthroughthehoops
the voice of reason
there are so many things to do for/with the little ones it adds up!
SIC